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Depending on how prepared you are and how confident you feel, asking a guy to the prom can either be a piece of cake or a nightmare.
If you've got your heart set on dancing the night away with one special guy, you'll need to ask him to be your date first. Not sure how? Read this guide, How to Ask a Guy to Prom, for some helpful tips.
- Prom is a special night. Chances are, you've thought a little (or a lot) about the person with whom you'd like to share that night. Once you've chosen a viable candidate, don't wait around for him to pop the question. Instead, ask him yourself!
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Preparation
- A little mental and strategic preparation can go a long way to making the "asking" experience a lot less intimidating.
- Choose a date.
- Before you ask someone to prom, you need to choose who that someone might be. Don't necessarily plan to ask the hottest guy you know. Even if you land a smokin' hot guy for your date, you're not guaranteed to have a great time at the dance. Consider asking a friend or another guy you love spending time with, even if you're not into that person romantically.
- Know your guy's plans.
- Save yourself the embarrassment of learning a guy is going with somebody else by finding out what his plans are before you ask him. Maybe he won't be in town on the night of the dance, or maybe another girl asked him while you were busy daydreaming about how you were going to ask him. If you can casually find out if he already has plans for the night (or get a friend to do it), then you'll remove another barrier between yourself and possible rejection.
- Practice.
- Once you've worked out how you're going to ask your chosen guy, practice! You can avoid the "ums," the "uhs," and the jitters during the actual asking by rehearsing with a friend or alone in your room. If you feel confident and comfortable when practicing, you'll be much more at ease when the time comes to do the real thing.
Step-by-Step Process
- Nervous? Don't worry. Most guys feel flattered when a girl asks them to a dance. Here's a simple breakdown of steps that will lead you through your invitation.
- Prepare yourself and your date.
- If you don't know your date that well (or even if you do), catch his attention by flirting actively for a few days right before you ask him to the prom. Initiating interactions between the two of you is also a great idea because then it won't be a total surprise when you ask. Making efforts like these to spend time with your date will help build your confidence, too.
- Get the guy alone.
- Catch the guy you're planning to ask one-on-one. Even if you're pretty sure he'll say yes, it puts a lot of pressure on a guy when you ask him to prom in front of half the school. It shows consideration if you make sure he's alone, and it may also take some of the pressure off you.
- Give him time.
- Especially if you don't know the guy very well, give him some time to think over your offer. If you don't make him feel like he has to answer right away, he'll get the impression that you're casual about the asking (which is a good thing) and that you won't be crushed to pieces if he says no.
- Respond, letting the guy's response lead your own.
- If he seems psyched when he says yes to you, feel free to express your excitement, too. Otherwise, act casually, and don't go overboard. Always show a sense of humor if you can, and let the guy know that you're pleased to be going with him.
- If he says no, you'll probably feel disappointed, but do your best to remain casual and upbeat. Smile, say "thanks anyway," and move on. Don't dwell on it! Stay friendly, and ask the next guy on your list when you get a chance.
