The fire is lit, the blanket on the floor, and the picnic basket of exotic foods sits next to Larry while he reaches inside to pull out grapes and erotically feeds them to his lover. Her pouty lips reach up to meet his fingers, and she sucks the morsels into her mouth. Larry leans forward, quickly replacing his fingers with his lips on hers.

Her hands come up around his neck, pulling him down to her, closer, pressing her body against his while he lays her down on the blanket. The intensity of the kissing increases, her body moving in time with his, clothing removed in a frantic rush. Their breath comes in rapid succession, and she gasps, ready for the moment he...

"Oh, baby. Oh. It's okay. That's all right," she murmurs, trying to hide her disappointment.

"I'm sorry," he mumbles. "This doesn't usually happen to me."

In this first part of a two part series on videos, Alex Allman talks about how premature ejaculation can affect a sex life negatively, and also discusses the difference between how men and women feel about premature ejaculation. You might be surprised to hear how women who email him really think about premature ejaculation. If you're a man and you're worried about how women will take PE problems, this video will be an eye opener.

It's important to note that premature ejaculation is a condition experienced by as much as 30% of all men on a fairly regular basis, but it is one of the least treated conditions of men.http://www.scienceblog.com/cms/node/7567 Most men do not realize how common occasional premature ejaculation really is. Because of this, it's also important to note that learning how to stop or control premature ejaculation has to begin by determining if it is an occasional condition or if it is being caused by another underlying condition.

Certain medications, moods, and even the type of clothing you wear can all contribute to an isolated episode of premature ejaculation. You should seek medical attention, however, when PE lasts for longer than a few isolated incidences.

If you experience PE on a limited basis and it's not causing problems in your sex life, then the rest of this guide can help you stop and limit your experience of PE.

Alcohol is a known problem with sexual relationships, including causing premature ejaculation. If you know you're going to have sexual relations, avoid consuming alcohol prior.

There are many prescription medications and over the counter medications that can cause problems with premature ejaculation. Find out which medications might be causing problems and avoid them or switch to alternatives that don't have this problem.

Illegal or illicit drug use, however, can cause serious sexual dysfunction, particularly for men. If you're wanting to stop or avoid premature ejaculation, you should not use illegal drugs.

Stimulating the penis during the day under normal circumstances can de-sensitize it for times in which extra stimulation is applied, like during sexual intercourse. Wearing boxers or going without underwear allows the penis to be stimulated regularly, and can provide increase staying power when extra sexual stimulation occurs.

Regular masturbation can desensitize the penis or let a man become accustomed to sexual stimulation so he can last longer during sex. If this doesn't work, masturbating to orgasm and ejaculation immediately prior to a sexual encounter can greatly increase the length of time a penis can maintain an erection before ejaculation.

Starting and stopping sexual activity can help delay ejaculation by letting the arousal levels decrease in between peaks of arousal. Taking even a few seconds to stop penile stimulation and then restarting again can make a big difference in the length of time a man can last during sex before orgasm.

One way to start and stop sexual stimulation of the penis is by changing positions. According to an article on WebMD, the 'missionary position', or man on top, is the worst one for being able to control ejaculation responses.http://www.webmd.com/sex/premature-ejaculation