Parenting teens who are violent is one of the most challenging issues that parents may face. Setting rules and expectations when children are young, and consistently following the rules may assist in deterring violent behavior. Young children are prone to be violent, because they have trouble communicating their wants and desires. These children also may have trouble handling rejection or being told "no." Although it's important that parents validate their children's feelings, they shouldn't coddle children who are violent. Children may begin to believe that they are being rewarded for misbehavior. http://www.supernanny.com/Advice/-/Your-child/-/Child-care/What-to-do-if-your-child-is-violent.aspx

Make sure that children know the rules, boundaries, and the consequences for breaking the rules. http://life.familyeducation.com/teen/discipline/39353.html Consequences should be realistic; parents should be able to follow through on all consequences. For example, for older older children who become violent, parents can try limiting television, phone calls, and activities with friends. Separate yourself from the child if you feel that your safety is in jeopardy. Younger children may need to have a time out and not participate in their favorite activities.

Validate the child's feelings. Young children lash out when they feel upset, sad, or frustrated. Let the child know that it's okay to have these feelings, but violent behavior will not be tolerated. Parents can communicate with the child to learn more about her feelings and teach her how to express herself. Young children who are unable to express themselves may need time, patience and understanding, but they took need to know that hitting, biting, kicking, or other behavior is not tolerated.

Parents who feel that they are powerless in the situation should seek professional help. A consultation from a professional can help children manage their anger and could determine the root of the violence. http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/understanding_violent_behavior_in_children_and_adolescents Sometimes violent behavior are caused by emotional problems. A licensed therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist can evaluate children and advise you on appropriate interventions.