Not everyone is a natural born charmer. If this is you, you may be looking for tips that will help you become more comfortable talking with people you don't know. This page examines one of the elements of learning how to flirt, initiating conversation. Being prepared, choosing the right opening line and learning how to hold their attention are essential to successfully engaging someone in conversation.http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html

Before you walk over and start talking, you may want to consider having a few topics ready. You don't have to have a script, but having an idea of what you are going to say will help prevent you from stumbling over your words, or saying nothing at all because you are nervous. Also, bring mints or gum with you to events or gatherings where you may meet someone. This will also help eliminate a bit of your nerves and allow you to relax when speaking. Now that you have an idea of what you'd like to talk to them about, you are almost ready to initiate the conversation.

While pick up lines may be funny, they are not always the most appropriate way to begin a conversation. So, with this in mind, choose what you are going to say carefully. Your opening line will provide the first impression that they will use to decide whether or not they want to continue talking with you. A few things to keep in mind when choosing your introduction are:http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html

Be sincere. Too much self confidence can lead to arrogance.

Be polite. Avoid lines that appear too provocative or are full of sexual implications.

Be open. You want them to feel comfortable enough to talk with you, so you'll want to avoid dominating the conversation.

Once you've started the conversation, you need to keep it going. To do this, you'll need to be sure that the conversation is interesting and that they are kept involved.

1. Do not control the conversation.
2. Allow them to talk and discuss topicshttp://www.therelationshipgym.com/conversation/flirting-conversation.htm
3. Ask them questions and show that you are interestedhttp://www.therelationshipgym.com/conversation/flirting-conversation.htm
4. Use welcoming body language and read their body language to change the direction of the conversation if necessaryhttp://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199901/flirting-fascination?page=5
5. Relax and enjoy the conversation

Check out these other helpful How Tos about flirting on Mahalo:

1. How to Flirt: Be Prepared
2. How to Flirt: Make Eye Contact
3. How to Flirt: Control Your Body Language
4. How to Flirt: Initiate Conversation
5. How to Flirt: Engage Them With How Interesting You Are
6. How to Flirt: Use Humor
7. How to Flirt: Smile
8. How to Flirt: Look Out For Signs and Signals
9. How to Flirt: Seal the Deal
10. How to Flirt: Practice
11. How to Flirt: Don't Take it too Seriously
12. How to Flirt: Don't Act Like a Stalker
13. How to Flirt: Don't Flirt in Inappropriate Places
14. How to Flirt: Don't be Arrogant
15. How to Flirt: Don't be too Forward
16. How to Flirt: Don't Talk About Your ex
17. How to Flirt: Don't be Rude
18. How to Flirt: Don't Overstay Your Welcome
19. How to Flirt: Don't Over do it With Cologne Perfume
20. How to Flirt: Don't Keep Trying With Someone who Just Isn't Interested
21. How to Flirt: Don't Flirt With Someone You Shouldn't be Flirting With
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