How To Flirt: Don't Be Arrogant

No one enjoys spending time with someone that is rude. Although you may not intentionally behaving this way, sometimes when flirting, confidence turns into arrogance. To avoid this, there are several ways for you to impress someone without offending them. This page will provide tips and details for following one of the essential rules for learning how to flirt: don't be arrogant. When you are meeting someone for the first time, you want to show them the best part of your personality. However, you want to avoid coming across in an inconsiderate or unpleasant manner.

Step 1: Don't Show Off

Your behavior when hanging out with friends should be different than when you are flirting with someone. The energy you would use to show off and do what your friends may consider to be cool, would be better spent focusing on your charm and flirting technique.

  1. When you are at a place where there is alcohol being served, be sure to watch your drinking habits as they may affect your level of arrogance. In these cases, the more someone drinks, the less likely they are to make wise decisions.
  2. When you are interested in flirting with someone, excuse yourself from your circle of friends and talk in a more intimate or private area. This will not only allow you to focus more on the other person, but can also help avoid your urge to show off.
  3. Most times, showing off only leads to embarrassment. Save yourself the trouble and avoid situations where you may be persuaded to do something that your "think" will impress them.http://www.twentieslife.com/gentlemans-guide-flirting/

Step 2: Confident Not Arrogant

By definition, arrogance is "having or showing an exaggerated opinion of one's own importance, merit, ability".http://www.thefreedictionary.com/arrogant Knowing this, it's not hard to see why someone with confidence can cross the line into arrogance. However, if you are aware of this, you may be able to still project the fact that you are confident, without becoming conceited.

  1. Monitor how often you talk about yourself. Be sure to give the other person ample time to speak.
  2. Don't gush about all of your accomplishments in one conversation.
  3. Graciously accept compliments, do not go searching for them.

Step 3: Turn The Tables

One way to combat the perception of arrogance, is to turn the tables. This means that rather than expect a compliment or other sign of interest, look to give these gestures to others.

  1. Generously give compliments. You don't want to go overboard, because they will no longer be sincere, but rather than expect to receive them, be the one to dish them out.http://www.twentieslife.com/gentlemans-guide-flirting/
  2. Avoid talking about yourself. Instead, ask them questions. Again, going to far will make this appear as an inquisition, but showing genuine interest will show them that you may be confident, but you are not self absorbed.http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html
  3. If you can't be impressive, without being arrogant, than just be yourself. Sincerity is a much better alternative than potentially offending someone.

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