This page will provide you with steps on learning how to flirt, by controlling your body language. When you are interested in someone, you may feel your body reacting to the attraction. You're face may turn bright shades of red, your eyes may involuntarily wonder in their direction and you find that you stand a little straighter. These are all physical signs that others can pick up on to tell you are attracted to them. However, learning to control these can provide you with confidence, which to some is an exceptionally attractive trait.

Many of us have either witnessed or been the person whose voice shakes when speaking to someone we are attracted to. By learning to control your voice, you can speak with confidence and allow the person to focus on what you are saying, not how you are struggling to say it. http://homeworktips.about.com/od/studymethods/a/nerves.htm

1. A major factor in controlling your voice is nervousness, so try to relax
2. Know what you are going to say and think about how you'll introduce yourself, before you walk over to meet them
3. Sometimes being nervous can cause you to have a dry mouth, so have a glass of water but avoid carbonated drinks

Once you've spotted someone that you are attracted to, your eyes may naturally seek them out. This is acceptable, however there are a few tips to keep in mind so that you avoid being offensive. http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html

1. Keep you eyes focused on their voice
2. Avoid prolonged staring at any one point of the body, they may interpret this as being a sign that something is wrong or that you are being rude
3. Avoid rolling your eyes or looking off in the distance
4. Use your eyes to convey that you are interested in what they are saying

Your body as a whole reacts to situations of nervousness and excitement. While flirting, you'll want to be sure that your body language is speaking the same tone that your voice is. To do this, here are a few tips that will help you control your body while flirting. http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html

1. If you are flirting with someone you already know, it may be acceptable to give them a playful hug or other light touches on the arm or shoulderhttp://contentdig.com/writing/attraction/how-to-flirt-with-women-3-types-of-flirting.html
2. Be sure to read a stranger's body language to see if physical contact would be welcome before reaching outhttp://www.learnbodylanguage.org/flirting_scene_5.html
3. When talking, be sure to position your body toward them
4. Avoid crossing legs or arms as this may be a sign that you are not interested
5. Keep hand gestures to a comfortable minimum
6. Refrain from nervous movements such as tapping fingers or bouncing legs, as this can be taken as a sign that you are antsy

Check out these other helpful How Tos about flirting on Mahalo:

1. How to Flirt: Be Prepared
2. How to Flirt: Make Eye Contact
3. How to Flirt: Control Your Body Language
4. How to Flirt: Initiate Conversation
5. How to Flirt: Engage Them With How Interesting You Are
6. How to Flirt: Use Humor
7. How to Flirt: Smile
8. How to Flirt: Look Out For Signs and Signals
9. How to Flirt: Seal the Deal
10. How to Flirt: Practice
11. How to Flirt: Don't Take it too Seriously
12. How to Flirt: Don't Act Like a Stalker
13. How to Flirt: Don't Flirt in Inappropriate Places
14. How to Flirt: Don't be Arrogant
15. How to Flirt: Don't be too Forward
16. How to Flirt: Don't Talk About Your ex
17. How to Flirt: Don't be Rude
18. How to Flirt: Don't Overstay Your Welcome
19. How to Flirt: Don't Over do it With Cologne Perfume
20. How to Flirt: Don't Keep Trying With Someone who Just Isn't Interested
21. How to Flirt: Don't Flirt With Someone You Shouldn't be Flirting With
22. How to Flirt