Valentine's Day is February 14th as most of those that have made it to be wives remember. Many wives do not understand why we give our husband’s gifts on Valentine’s Day to begin with. So to help you understand why you’re giving your husband a gift, and likely getting a gift yourself in the first place, the history of Valentine's Day seems a fitting forerunner to this helpful guide on how to buy a valentine's gift for your husband.

Valentine’s Day was originally a Pagan holiday that ended up finding itself a Christian saint for acceptance. The ancient roman fertility festival of Lupercalia is the mother of what we call Valentine’s Day. This Pagan ritual was held on February 15th and was not celebrated with cards, roses and candy giving like the holiday we know today. Priests would slaughter a goat for fertility and a dog for purity and then used strips of their flesh to whip women thus making them more fertile and pure in the coming year.

These same women would later place their names on bits of paper and the eligible men would literally draw a mate from an urn that the names were placed within. These drawings didn’t always make husband and wives, but many did end up that way. One may speculate these scraps of paper with names were the earliest form of Valentine's Day card.

Later when Christianity became the more popular religion, the pope banned this festival as well as the act of drawing names for match-ups for being inappropriate. However, like most Pagan holidays it’s easier to transform and give a new name to a holiday than do away with it. Valentine’s Day was then given the name we know today and a nifty story to go along with it.

The story goes like this, the roman emperor banned marriage in an attempt to bolster the size of the military and a Saint named Valentine rebelled marrying couples in secret anyway. His defiant action cost him his head though, literally, the emperor had him beheaded. Conveniently, Valentine supposedly met his end on February 14th just one day before the original fertility festival was held.http://www.history.com/content/valentine/history-of-valentine-s-day

No matter which history you want to take, as fact Valentine’s Day is a day for romance and to celebrate love. The tradition of gift giving to display this love originated when a prisoner who couldn’t be with his wife on Valentine’s Day sent her a token of his love instead. After all, if you can’t be there in the flesh a token of love is the next best thing.http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2009/02/090211-valentines-day-gifts-history.html

So, keeping all this in mind how do you buy the best token of love for your husband this Valentine’s day?

The first thing to keep in mind when buying a great Valentine’s Day gift for your husband is to make your gift personal. Giving a Valentine’s Day gift is not just a mandatory process that you should feel obligated to carry through each year of your marriage.

Do not just buy him a box of cheap chocolates, a silly singing gorilla in his heart covered underwear, or a card that Hallmark wrote beautifully. If that is your game plan you might as well just hand him the cash you would spend or keep it in your bank account, you would both likely get more use from it that way.

Instead, find a gift for your husband that says, “I know you better than anyone else in the world, and I love you.” What’s his favorite color, movie, pass time, place, or food? All the little things you know about him can be effectively turned into an amazing gift.

Keep him in mind as you just go walking the stores, chances are something will scream him at you from the shelf or plan ahead to get him that thing you know he’s been wanting for ages.

The second thing to remember is it doesn’t have to cost a lot. Price tag does not equate to the value of your love. This is not to say that price is no object. Studies show that Americans spends over one hundred dollars each year on Valentine’s Day, and in this economy most couples can say that’s not chump change. http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2009/02/090211-valentines-day-gifts-history_2.html

When giving any gift, let alone to your husband you should pay less attention to price, more attention to the real value of the gift you are giving. You could buy ingredients to make his favorite meal or dessert.

You could buy inexpensive small items to combine into one single gift like a Zombie Survival kit or a basket filled with trinkets that will remind him of all the wonderful experiences you’ve had as a couple. You could even just buy something you really know he’ll enjoy and use often.

If that item happens to be expensive that’s okay too as long as you chose it for a reason and not just to give a gift as mentioned in step one of this how to guide. In short, the point is it’s not the price tag that matters, your gift to him should be a representation of your love in token form.

Once you’ve successfully chosen and purchased, a Valentine’s Day gift for your husband the third and final step is to give it to him. The way you chose to give your husband your Valentine’s Day gift can be made almost as special as the gift itself.

Be sure to make Valentine’s Day about just you and him, no kids, no friends, no relatives, no work, just you and him. Romance takes two, not a crowd. Plan a day that the two of you will particularly enjoy and just bask in the emotion you know as love.

Try to make the entire day special and irregular from your everyday routine. Perhaps do something the two of you normally wouldn’t get the chance to do, but remember to keep your husband’s desires in mind. Choose activities for the day that he will enjoy as well. Love is often selfless and fun to a wife is not always the same as fun to a husband.

No one can write a guide to instruct you how to have an incredible holiday, or even to chose an amazing Valentine’s Day gift. If you just follow your instinct and let your heart guide your way the day will be perfect either way. Think of these three simple steps more of tips to help you find that heart.