Can't stand it when you are not in control of a situation? Are you naturally aggressive? Perhaps you should look into the lucrative and little talked about business of being a professional dominatrix. To learn how to become a dominatrix, read through the steps in this guide.
It's not for everyone, that's for sure. You will come across things that might make you uncomfortable, or even disgust you. An open mind, iron fist, and strong sense of self confidence are the first things you will need.
Thigh high vinyl boots are the second.
Tips
A common form of address for a submissive to a dominatrix is "mistress", "ma'am", "domina" or "maîtresse".
Introduction
The very first thing you should do, is research, research, research! Look up the laws in your area and any other areas you want to work in. In some places, it's illegal to to be paid for services like spanking, even if there is no physical sexual activity involved. Make sure you know the laws.
Find out what kind of services you would like to provide. Look up fetishes, and eliminate the ones that you are unwilling to involve yourself with. Remember what you are interested in, and work them into a service package or plan.
It would also be a good idea to look up other dominatrices, get a feel for how many services you want to provide and how much compensation is normal. Remember, as a dominatrix, you are providing a service, and you have to work your way to the top.
Once you get comfortable and start to get a feel for what you're doing, it's time to start putting the wheels in motion.
Step 1: Create a Persona and Dress the Part
It would be a bad idea to work under your own name, so think about creating a character for yourself. What kind of dominatrix would you like to be? There is so much more than the stereotype of a woman in spike-studded vinyl suit whipping a business man for being a bad, bad boy.
This brings us back to fetishes. For example, there's the stern teacher, or the angry mother. Whatever you decide, you are the boss in the roleplay, so you must play the part. Remember, you wear the boots, the boots don't wear you.
Once you find something you like that works, stick with it.
Wardrobe is your prerogative. You could go with the vinyl, pvc, buckles, zippers and corsets, or you could build your own style of dress. Whatever makes you feel like your character and gets you into it is what you should wear. It's recommended to build a versatile wardrobe to fulfill your clients fantasies.
Step 2: Dungeons
Before you start working on your own, it would be a good idea to look into dungeons. Find out if there is an apprenticeship program or house of domination near you. If not, it's back to research.
When you're ready to work on your own, create your space. It could be a privately rented area such as an apartment, or even in your own home. This is where you will be working.
How you decorate and equip will be relative to your type of service.
Step 3: Make a Name for Yourself
Promote yourself! Take out ads, join Craigslist, build a website or a blog. Make sure you have everything outlined as to avoid confusion, and please, take measures for safety! Develop a system for making appointments, and hopefully, soon you will be a successful dominatrix.
