1 year, 7 months ago
Why femdom appeals to some people?
This is an adult theme. Before you give an answer consult wikepdia to know more about it, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_dominance and visit at least one femdom website, example http://bossy-girls.net/. There are various femdom idologies, that site ideology is at http://bossy-girls.net/indoctrination/ How does the appeal that femdom has over some people compare with the appeal that homosexuality has over gays?
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Before I get into the main part of my answer I want to note that the two sources you list are not among the best. The Wikipedia article uses references that aren't current. Also, studies such as the ones cited are often based on people who find their interest uncomfortable and are seeking "help" for it; their reports don't provide an accurate picture of the many people who practice healthy BDSM and find it fulfilling. Your second reference is a pay site. Its intent is to make money by appealing to fantasy fulfillment. As such, some of the information is slanted in order to make sales. The site combines two things that appeal to special audiences--those interested in power exchange role play and those interested in the "barely legal" genre--in order to appeal to a wider audience of potential buyers. In reality, few women in that age group have the life and sexual experience necessary to practice safe, sane genuine BDSM.
Why domination, whether by men or women, appeals to people is a common question. First, you need to understand that there are two basic motivations. People who enjoy the power and control, either giving it up or exercising it, are practicing actual domination and submission. Then there are people who find the idea, but not the practice, erotic. These are people who spice up a good vanilla sex life with elements of BDSM. The pay site you listed appeals primarily to people in the latter group and offers BDSM-like activities, but not the real power exchange. The reason it appeals is it provides good, erotic fun.
People who enjoy giving or receiving control also find their activities erotic. After all, power is sexy. But the draw for them is the control, not solely the erotic component. Why is this appealing? No one knows for sure, but it's likely hard wired, something with which people are born, just like homosexuality (and heterosexuality, for that matter). These things don't have a hold over people; it's simply part of their personality. They make the choice of how, or even if, they express it.
Good sources of reliable information about BDSM are:
http://gloria-brame.com/
http://sexuality.org/
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/settings/sign-in/
Why domination, whether by men or women, appeals to people is a common question. First, you need to understand that there are two basic motivations. People who enjoy the power and control, either giving it up or exercising it, are practicing actual domination and submission. Then there are people who find the idea, but not the practice, erotic. These are people who spice up a good vanilla sex life with elements of BDSM. The pay site you listed appeals primarily to people in the latter group and offers BDSM-like activities, but not the real power exchange. The reason it appeals is it provides good, erotic fun.
People who enjoy giving or receiving control also find their activities erotic. After all, power is sexy. But the draw for them is the control, not solely the erotic component. Why is this appealing? No one knows for sure, but it's likely hard wired, something with which people are born, just like homosexuality (and heterosexuality, for that matter). These things don't have a hold over people; it's simply part of their personality. They make the choice of how, or even if, they express it.
Good sources of reliable information about BDSM are:
http://gloria-brame.com/
http://sexuality.org/
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/settings/sign-in/
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The ideology page,http://bossy-girls.net/indoctrination/index.htm, at the commercial site Bossy Girls, according to the managers, is the least visited page. People interested in femdom rush to see free videos and photos. Hence the best way to entertain and educate on the femdom theme is through videos where the ideology that femdom is mutually beneficial can be implicitly conveyed. Originally, that website was not commercial and it did not attract visitors. Many who are interested in femdom are not interested in ideology or information but only gratification. The site evolved into commercial to maintain itself and attract visitors. many people who are inclined to femdom, even if they are troubled by their inclinations, do not want to seek somebody to share their feelings