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When someone friends you on Facebook, and you have no idea who they are, what do you do?

I don't want to offend them by asking them who they are, but I don't want someone on my page that I don't know. Do I ignore them? Reject them? Just ask them who the heck they are?
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philipy | 2 years, 2 months ago
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The few times I've had friend requests from people I don't recognise I've always sent back a msg saying something like:

"I'm sorry to say I can't remember how we know each other. Can you remind me where we met?"

If you're nice about it, no one is offended. Often times it turns out they are friends of friends, or mistook you for someone else, maybe because you are indeed a friend of someone they know or worked someplace they did, but just not the person they were thinking you were.

Just be friendly and leave open the possibility that you might after all have forgotten who they are, and be apologetic about that fact. That gives them a chance to explain.

If they really don't know you they'll at least explain why they wanted to add you. And I find at that point people usually also say things like "It's fine if you don't want to add me, I won't be offended."

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thebandit | 2 years, 2 months ago
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First, I'll look at their profile to see if it's plausible that they might know me -- signs that they go to the same school I do, are friends with people I know, have the same interests as me, the like. Basically, anything that signifies that there's a reason to this friend request and it's not just a random spammer (which has happened a few times before.)

Then I'd probably accept them if they have one of the above reasons, unless I get creepy-dude vibes. (Yeah, it's usually male. That's just something women unfortunately have to put up with more than men.) I wouldn't ask who they are, though; that would just add unnecessary awkwardness.

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lidyax2 | 2 years, 2 months ago
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I click on their profiles to check info about them. There are many students that friend me, and sometimes they use weird name such as Sasukeiscool or something, so it might be them. Second is to check how many friends we have in common. If they're one of my students, they usually also have several friends who are on my list. In general, I accept friend requests, I dont post sensitive information online so it doesn't really matter to me. However, if the info I found is not acceptable or if it's an online shop profile, I'll just reject them.

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ai-ai | 2 years, 2 months ago
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Well, I had three friends on Facebook whom I don't know (from the US). They're not even friends of my friends. They just came suddenly and request me to be a friend. I accepted them and I even thanked them and we're in fact, neighbors in Farmville, lol. BUT, I see to it my profile is safe. I don't even display birthday and other relevant/personal information. I do comment to some of my friends but I don't specify as to where that place can be located - to be safe. I even have changed my profile settings so that I can be safe.

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albanian | 2 years, 2 months ago
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First I click on them to see if the parts of their pages that are visible jog my memory. If not, I let the request sit a while in case I remember them later. Eventually I click on ignore. Usually it is someone in a game that I am in who has forgotten to personalize a note, but I don't "friend" fellow game players anyway. I think I would ask who they are if I had that "tip of the tongue" feeling about their name. Facebook is great for reconnecting with old friends; but, my memory just isn't all that perfect when it comes to names of classmates in high school or college or the Navy etc. I don't think it hurts to take a chance once in a while, but you should not make a policy of befriending people unless you remember them or know why they are suggested by Facebook.

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jkepler | 2 years, 2 months ago
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I accept all requests. There are tons of people in life who I don't know, but who know me. I get stopped on the street fairly often. I find carrying on a conversation in person with someone I don't recognize to be much more difficult than accepting a friend request. If someone wants to be my friend, I'm all for it.

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bklynj | 2 years, 2 months ago
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I just ask them who they are and how they know me or sometimes I just ignore them. I just started on this facebook thing so I don't have to many so far.

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christiesilvers | 2 years, 2 months ago
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As an author, I accept all friend requests on Facebook. I may not know them, but you never know when a complete stranger can become one of the best friends to have around. I have online friends who have been with me for more than a decade, yet we've never met in person.

You just never know. :-)

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charray7 | 2 years, 2 months ago
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If I get a request from someone I don't seem to know who they are, the first thing I do is click on the request to see if we have friends that we both know. This happens a lot since I am a writer and I have tons of friends that are freelance writers also that I don't know personally. If that doesn't work, I'll look at their profile to see if that makes anything click. If there is nothing there, more than likely I will just ignore it.

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