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What would you do if your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend told you they wanted to try a threesome?
Times are different than they were just a few years back. People have become more open minded in many ways and even in the bedroom. I have a dear friend and she and her husband have been married over 10 years. I believe they have a great relationship. They are great parents and very level headed professional people. Her husband recently told he wanted to experiment and invite another woman, they know well into their bedroom, just for one night of sex and try a threesome. What would YOU do if your spouse or girlfriend /boyfriend told you they wanted to have a threesome just for one night with someone you knew?
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Does he want a threesome? Or specifically this other woman in their bed? What if the wife said no to her but asked for another guy to join them. How would he feel? If he objects it is less about the threesome and more about that woman in particular. At least that's how it would appear to me.
I suppose there's something to be said for not wanting to sneak off alone with someone. Not sure if "it's the thought that counts" applies here though.
The question with bringing in a third person is always, "why isn't sex with just me good enough for you?" For me being with the woman I truly love automatically excludes thoughts, fantasies and desires for anyone else. It's not so much a choice as a desire to only be with her. I feel our love is deeper and more intense than it could ever be with a third (or fourth, etc).
I have been in relationships before where I wanted to try things with other people and that question came up. I realize now that MY reason for looking elsewhere was due to an inner lack of satisfaction. Not my partners fault, necessarily, but a sign that something had opened up in my life and I wasn't filling it with my partner.
A threesome implies that everyone is involved. A twosome with an observer is not a threesome. If they both want to play with this other woman then doing it together is the way to go. Assuming this other woman is also interested of course.
I suppose there's something to be said for not wanting to sneak off alone with someone. Not sure if "it's the thought that counts" applies here though.
The question with bringing in a third person is always, "why isn't sex with just me good enough for you?" For me being with the woman I truly love automatically excludes thoughts, fantasies and desires for anyone else. It's not so much a choice as a desire to only be with her. I feel our love is deeper and more intense than it could ever be with a third (or fourth, etc).
I have been in relationships before where I wanted to try things with other people and that question came up. I realize now that MY reason for looking elsewhere was due to an inner lack of satisfaction. Not my partners fault, necessarily, but a sign that something had opened up in my life and I wasn't filling it with my partner.
A threesome implies that everyone is involved. A twosome with an observer is not a threesome. If they both want to play with this other woman then doing it together is the way to go. Assuming this other woman is also interested of course.
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