2 years, 9 months ago
What should I do.... Please Help
I'm 20 and been talking to this 26 year old for a year now. He stays with sons mother. (But he sleeps on the couch). He says he's only there because of his son. (I know what you thinking why put up with this). He tells me they not together because she got pregnant by another man. Around tax time he told me he was gonna get a car and a place. He did get a car and told me he was on a waiting list for his apartment. As time go by I ask him again whats going on he say he still wanting I ask him did you call him he said no. Now he's telling me he dont have any money. So his son's mother has the baby and she named him a similar name to the guys name and gives him his last name. He said she did that so she can cheat the system she's on welfare and because his son is a jr they can have the same last name. I dumped him because he didn't tell me anything I had to find out from someone else. He started crying saying his son and me is all he half he's only there for his son. All his family live in Georgia. He have no where else to go. I even told him he could move in with me he said he would but his son. His son's mother know nothing about me. He say its none of her business and that when the times right he will tell her. He say shes gonna keep him away from his son which she cant do and she will hit him up for child support. What should I do. I'm tired he tells me he loves me but why want he move. And who will still be living there with a new baby if its not there. Even if he say he has no place else to go. He is using his son as a shield. Again I offered him a place to stay.
Okay so he already have a 5 year old son. The new baby is 6 months thats the one he say isn't he's even though he has his last name.
Okay so he already have a 5 year old son. The new baby is 6 months thats the one he say isn't he's even though he has his last name.
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This man is clearly a liar - if he wants to see his son then the mother of the boy can't stop him. By law he has the right to see his shild and he can take her to court about it. If he can't afford it then, I don't know what the system is in your country, but here we have legal aid that pays court fees if you can't pay them.
What's wrong with her asking him for child support? No real man would complain about that, he should be out working his arse off to earn as much money as he possibly can to send her money for the boy. If he's worried that she will spend the money on herself then he can save money and buy the things his son needs.
Please understand that he doesn't care about anyone but himself and he most certainly doesn't love you, I hope you'll do the right thing for yourself :)
Good luck.
What's wrong with her asking him for child support? No real man would complain about that, he should be out working his arse off to earn as much money as he possibly can to send her money for the boy. If he's worried that she will spend the money on herself then he can save money and buy the things his son needs.
Please understand that he doesn't care about anyone but himself and he most certainly doesn't love you, I hope you'll do the right thing for yourself :)
Good luck.
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I know you care about this person, but you have to think about yourself first. His life is complicated and if you decide to be with him, your life will be complicated too. Give him time to resolve his situation. Let him find a place to live and a good job, so he can pay child support. Afterward, if you are interested, then start dating him again. However, right now, you need to take care of yourself and let him take care of his situation. Remember, it is meant to be, is meant to be. But, right now, he needs time to put his life in order. That is something he needs to do, not you.
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Hi there,
This is what I think is happening. He clearly wants his cake and to eat it too. You have already offered him your place to stay. He refuses to do so because he's still in the relationship with his "ex", otherwise he would take your offer. Who wouldn't want to live with their gf/bf especially if you are so in love and down and out of your luck. He doesn't want to move in with you because he doesn't have to. He has a family to take care of and you and even if he doesn't have the money, his live in girlfriend still has him hanging around. He's comfortable and that's his life, you're just an outsider he wants to keep a hold on? He has a ton of stuff to work out and you shouldn't be in the middle of it. He's telling you he wants to walk on eggshells because if he tells his ex now he won't get to see his kids. When will the time be right? It never will.
I say just leave the guy, let him cry you a river and then more. He's already living with someone else and continues to have children with this person so I wouldn't waste your time. He'll end up using you and you'll just get hurt.
My two cents.
This is what I think is happening. He clearly wants his cake and to eat it too. You have already offered him your place to stay. He refuses to do so because he's still in the relationship with his "ex", otherwise he would take your offer. Who wouldn't want to live with their gf/bf especially if you are so in love and down and out of your luck. He doesn't want to move in with you because he doesn't have to. He has a family to take care of and you and even if he doesn't have the money, his live in girlfriend still has him hanging around. He's comfortable and that's his life, you're just an outsider he wants to keep a hold on? He has a ton of stuff to work out and you shouldn't be in the middle of it. He's telling you he wants to walk on eggshells because if he tells his ex now he won't get to see his kids. When will the time be right? It never will.
I say just leave the guy, let him cry you a river and then more. He's already living with someone else and continues to have children with this person so I wouldn't waste your time. He'll end up using you and you'll just get hurt.
My two cents.
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Agreed ;)
I agree.
It's clear he's not an honest person so trusting what he tells you is highly suspect. Someone else deserves and wants the love and attention you have to give but most importantly you deserve to be with someone who is far less complicated and dishonest. Move away from him, decline contact with him, move on quickly and never look back.