You can try telling her that she is a "big girl" now so it is soon time to stop using her pacifier. You can tell her this on a few consecutive days so that she gets used to the idea. When it is time to get rid of it you can throw it in the garbage with her so that she can see that it is gone.

The first time she goes to bed she will realize that the pacifier is gone. You won't have to worry about giving in, since you've gotten rid of the pacifiers. It will likely take a good hour or more for the child to now fall asleep, because he doesn't know how to without the pacifier, and needs to learn a new way to fall asleep. Be prepared for tears and screams, but don't scold her, just support her as she works her way through this.

Usually, by the third or fourth night, she will have learned how to fall asleep in a short time again, though don't be surprised if she still asks about the pacifiers. The one thing you have to make sure of is that you don't substitute yourself as the new "object" that she needs in order to fall asleep. You want her to learn how to fall asleep on her own.

My children would not take a pacifier so I personally did not have to go through the withdrawal part. However, my brothers children did. The way he got them off the pacifier was to put a little hole in the pacifier and when they brought it to him, he said it was broke. When they got another, he did the same and said I guess that is broke too. They got used to going without it and the problem was solved.

Good luck!

P.S. I found this video that recommends the same technique!

My daughter recently gave up her precious binky at age 3. Or, about a month ago. She has been slow to accept changes, in spite of being a bright, fast learner. The pacifier was rough, and she asked for it at bedtime for a couple weeks, but now is perfectly happy without it.

What we did was "Lose" two of them, only to find she had several more hidden about the house. Everytime she found one, she was so proud of herself. Rather than spanking her, or taking it away, we would simply let her fall asleep, and "lose" it again. When we finally got all of them, we simply bought no more.

It was rough getting her to sleep for a few days, but now she is trying to help her 14 month old cousin to stop using his.

The best way is different for each child and parent. Wouldn't it be great if there was one way for all?
Both of my boys (now 3 1/2) used pacifiers. One thing I had done at 4-6 months was to decide that the pacifier didn't leave the crib. So unless they were sleeping, they didn't get used to having it. There was one exception for each child which involved a surgery and a medical test.

At about 1 1/2 - 2 years old, I started trying to stop them from using it. I cut the pacifier like has been suggested, but that didn't work for mine. I'm a stay at home mom, so I am in control of their naps. That was the sleeping session that first became pacifier-free. I gave them each a new stuffed toy to hug on and stayed in the room for extra hugs and kisses, etc. You could try this on a weekend if you aren't able to be around for naps.

It took 2 days of naps as I remember for them to be OK with it. After about 2 weeks of that, I had taken away the night-time pacifier too. In those 2 weeks I'd started telling them that they were going to have to "give the pacifier to some little boy or girl who needed it more".

If my 2 had been still using their pacifiers for stressful times like your little girl is, I think that I would try and show her some other thing to do which helps her stress-coping before I took away the pacifier at all.
That worked for them. Good luck to you.

I was still using one when I was three, so Mom told me that I had to give it up when I turned four. Apparently I misunderstood the way cause and effect worked, because the very next day I walked into the kitchen and threw it away, proclaiming "I four now!" I never wanted it back after that either, so it looks like getting your kid to give it up voluntarily is the best way.

my 23 month old was broken from hers 2 months ago. we took them and put them in a drawer with out her knowing and told her the P fairy come to take it to baies that dont have mommies and daddies to help them sleep, she asked mayne 5 times we stuck to the story problem solved no fussing during bed or nap time. i think the pacifier is more of a security thing for parents then the kids