1 year, 10 months ago
What is the proper etiquette for adding friends on Facebook? What about a girl you just met at a party and will never see again?
Okay so I've done it (perhaps regrettably) and gotten Facebook. Lately some people have added me that from school that I would rather not add. Some I did, others I have ignored. If I "defriend" someone will they know?
On the second part, I met this girl at a party. We didn't have a one-night stand or anything but she added me and I would really rather not accept. Not out of ignorance, I would like to stay in touch definitely. I just don't want her to have access to all my updates, photos, etc. It was an anonymous meeting that I would have enjoyed and left a few years ago- now with technology it seems that everyone is accessible everywhere! Anyone got any ideas on this? I should add she is from another country and we will probably never see each other again.
On the second part, I met this girl at a party. We didn't have a one-night stand or anything but she added me and I would really rather not accept. Not out of ignorance, I would like to stay in touch definitely. I just don't want her to have access to all my updates, photos, etc. It was an anonymous meeting that I would have enjoyed and left a few years ago- now with technology it seems that everyone is accessible everywhere! Anyone got any ideas on this? I should add she is from another country and we will probably never see each other again.
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First off I am not sure why you have a facebook and you don't want people to see what your putting on there. Personally I use social networking sites for just these kind of people, old school mates or people I meet randomly. When it comes to my actual friends I will just E-mail them pictures and updates on my life, not put it on the facebook. I find this eliminates you having to worry about what people see what. Still I am not sure what you are hiding from this girl, I would have no problem adding her. Different strokes I suppose.
Adding someone on facebook is pretty meaningless. For the most part you will never talk to these people, even though you are "friends" on the internet you are never gonna be actual friends.
Also I know you can find out when someone "de-friends" you on facebook, I am just not sure how easy it is to find out. I don't think it show up on your wall or anything, but if you go to that persons profile it is fairly obvious if you are still friends or not.
If you want to keep in touch with her I would suggest old fashioned E-mail.
Adding someone on facebook is pretty meaningless. For the most part you will never talk to these people, even though you are "friends" on the internet you are never gonna be actual friends.
Also I know you can find out when someone "de-friends" you on facebook, I am just not sure how easy it is to find out. I don't think it show up on your wall or anything, but if you go to that persons profile it is fairly obvious if you are still friends or not.
If you want to keep in touch with her I would suggest old fashioned E-mail.
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No your not alone, I have used facebook to stay in touch with the people i used to see everyday, but at the same time I have never had someone add me that I did not want to see my profile.
Also these people are just people I recognize, not actually friends. I can see why you or anyone would enjoy social networking and you are not the only one who likes to keep in touch. However If facebook would have never existed, I would not text any of the people on my "friends" list and they would most likely do the same.
If I really wanted to consider them a friend I would just go see them personally. So I guess it is just a matter of what you use facebook for. If you want to maintain 60 friends, its a good place, but then you have to watch what you put up. Sometimes maybe i have a joke or article that only some people will find funny, then i just message it to them instead of posting it on their wall.
Still I am a little confused on why you don't want people to see what you post. Also I would suggest E mail over texting. You might not want to do this but it seems to me this is the best solution to your problem.
I live in a rural area but go to quite a large school. So I use Facebook to stay updated with my friends, all in one place. I can look at photos of events they've been to, see status updates, check out what's going on in their lives quickly without being glued to a mobile phone texting everyone all day everyday just to maintain the friendship.
I try to only add people I actually want to see everyday and normally do/ would at school or college when I'm there. I'm I alone in this?