What is more important in a relationship, stability or love? Would you rather be happy yet poor, or miserable yet rich?
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All You Need is Love
Marrying for convenience, gold digging, though prevalent in history,is prostitution.
Virgil
The Beatles
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Love is stability and happiness makes one rich.
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I'd rather have emotional stability in my relationship with my husband than living in a palace where both of us are unhappy and becoming estranged to each other. The palace would be like a prison to me. The love that we have between my husband and I will help us to work hard and be each other's wind beneath our wings. I believe that through the difficulties that we will encounter by not having an easy life, we will be able to appreciate each other more and become more understanding and supportive. Because we know what are our priorities in life and that is our relationship and relationship with our daughters. Even if we are working hard we will be able to check and balance everything so that we will not spend too much time working and neglected each other and our children or vice versa.
Own opinion.
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Agreed. Emotions are a choice you make with no strings attached. You do not necessarily have the same power over your financial circumstances. I would choose money and then I would create the happiness.
Besides, love is not romance. Love is respect and patience (among other things), which is very hard to achieve on an enduring basis when faced with financial stress.
@meyermv I think we differ in opinions as I come from other country and I assume, you too. By marrying a rich, this is just a provocative question, I don't mean that I would marry anyone even if it means he is a dirty old man (I cannot do that). As a practical person, I would marry a rich man (in this given situation and maybe not as rich as you may think) that I also like to be with in my lifetime. And he must also be a good man - just good, responsible and loving. Thank God I have married the man of my dreams. He is not rich in terms of money/wealth but he can provide for us and he loves us a lot (he's rich with love). And, my husband hasn't lifted a hand on me while I hear our poor neighbors quarreling in the middle of the night. We see different things that is why we differ in opinions. But I do respect your opinion, too.
Correct!
As I do yours.
I guess I'm trying to understand what your definition of rich is, since it wasn't defined in your original answer.
I think jasonf is asking 'rich' in terms of monetary or material wealth, not rich or 'full' in love, respect, you know all the good things 'rich' not dealing with money. Your answer, and comment, seem to be based on the later, when he was asking about the former.
@ ai-ai - It depends on what your definition of poor is. If it is poverty level, you can survive on that and be happy. As I have stated, my single mother supported three children, on less than $20K a year. If the definition of poor is to have no money or resources at all, 15 kids, and no job, then someone screwed up. In that situation I don't see a way to be happy.
I also don't see a way to be happy if a rich husband is always working, never home and always traveling. What is there to love? The material things that he has given for distraction? I think not.
My husband will be gone for two days in April, for business. I will long for him terribly, and will find nothing distracting enough to not think about having him sleeping next to me.
"being miserable is a choice", this is true. But if your rich spouse doesn't love you and you crave love, what would you do? Be miserable your entire life?, I think not. There is NO amount of money that would replace love, at least in my case. Money, material things, cannot replace the situation that strengthened my love for my husband.
@nancyke11y, "Emotions are a choice", I generally agree with that. When I don't agree with this concept is in a situation similar to this: Your rich spouse beats you and your children. We are all going to be happy right?, because it is a choice to be happy or miserable. How long can happiness last when you get all the material things you want, then are physically beaten?
"Love is respect and patience (among other things)", that generally don't have a thing to do with money or material things. :)
Just a note, your answers are a bit off what OP's question was.
I guess it is all based on your prespective of what is real wealth and happiness and what really provides you stability.
I understand that many people will take money and power over happiness and with that choice may have choosen stability over love and one day they find themselves alone even in a crowded room. For if the money disappears and with that the stability what do you really have left ???
I would always choose love and happiness because I know that with those two my heart is rich and I will always have someone to lean on.
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It is possible to be happy and poor. However, it is possible to change and upgrade from poor. It's a shared goal in most happy marriages. Not easy, but do-able.
If you are miserable yet rich, WHY? No need to change the "rich" factor, but it is possible to turn misery into happiness.
It would be a challenge in either relationship - happy yet poor, miserable yet rich. I'm open to challenge and change. It would be well worth the final goal of a happy, faithful, lasting relationship.
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M$I find many rich people to be materialistic. When they don't get what they want, they get a divorce. When my husband and I can't get what we want, we don't sit there and pout or think about divorce, we think about ways to save up for what we want.
Money, material things, infatuation, lust, sex, physcial beauty, youth, all come and go. True love doesn't.
I choose to be poor (in material wealth) and happy. Because one can be poor in materials, and rich in soul.
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personal opinion
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Other think the opposite, it's all about the money-Meja