What do you think is worse for your teenage kid to watch, sex or violence?
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Violence, on the other hand, is not condoned by anyone. Technically, if you've done a good job of raising your kids up through adolescence so far, they should have it instilled in them that violence is wrong. But teenagers are highly vulnerable to peer pressure and outside influences, so I'd still rather they stay away from the violent films.
There are exceptions to the rule though. I'd probably let a little violence slide if it were a war movie because that's part of our history and it also is a good example of patriotism and sacrifice.
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Ofcoars it would depend on allot of factors, for instance the age of the teen, is this a boy or a girl ? (Yes I know that SOUNDS sexist!) ( no mail please -.- ) , Also the amount of violence or amount of promiscuity in the media. SO. ..Many factors play a role....
What age is the teen ?
What sex is the teen ?
How much violence and / or how much sex ?
Is this a "shocking" (gratuitous) violence or shocking sexual encounter ?
EG:
Is this 2 consenting adults passionately going at it (making out), or is it more involved ?
Is this a horror film or involve cruel and unusual punishment ?
You see, your answer isn't so complex as one might have originally thought, ...
Unfortunately your answer is going to be less complicated.
I believe in my own opinion that a young teen watching a passionate sexual encounter is bound to grow up with malformed thoughts on how a woman or man should be treated. However there is also the very worst of violent gore, for instance _a_ holocaust or genocide and violent acts that go with them or something much worse. Ultimately _I_ would rather have my tennager watch the most engaging of sex acts then witness the hypocrisy 's of the smallest violent encounter.
Then your question might get a little more complicated from there..,
What type of sex is this ?
(Some say sex is sex,.... uncandidly evolution has taught us different.)
Sex in america and canada's curriculum is defined as the passage of bodily fluids between 2 apposite sex's.
....Well if that is the case then I guess I should stop kissing my wife in front of the kids before I leave for work in the morning ?
Another words...
Is this a Homosexual or Heterosexual encounter ?
Is this simple kissing or all out foreplay with whips and handcuffs ?
If it came down to just kissing Vs my kid seeing someone's head being blown off I think thats a no brainer.. If it was much worse than that and they started breaking out the balls and chains then I might have to re-consider.
I do have to give credit where credit is due, most people in the world define sex as intercourse. However I do know allot of elderly people that might challenge that assumption.
As @darraghd stated however the worlds opinion is slightly different.
87% of parents WOULD definitely prefer THEIR teenagers to watch violence.
People abroad have a little different view of that, they are much more open about sex, hence they have a lower teen pregnancy rate as well as a lower abortion rate because of that.
I think what we all need is a tighter definitional of what constitutes as sex.
It is important that young teens understand the difference between passion and lust,..clearly understand what promiscuity is, and the value of a committed relationship before having sex.
But I wouldn't take my kid to see ''The last house on the left'' over staying home and catching kate bare all in The Titanic in a heartbeat.
All in all, lets hope we all don't have to find out.
Kind Regards,
@XDS
You don't want to know.
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Good luck.
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I would, however, add the caveat that a lot of the portrayals of sex in the media aren't exactly healthy, especially in the way that women are portrayed. Some of that could osmose into the kid's worldview. But then, violence has that too.
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If you are right about being prime candidates for conditioning then surely watching violence would be far worse. You are being inconsistent. And kids do murder people these days, frequently.
There is also plenty of violence short of murder, just as there is plenty of sex short of violent rape. Sex is something basically positive, violence is basically negative. If kids were really influenced by what they saw in the movies, it follows logically that ones with sex are better than ones with violence.
When was the last time you watched something then thought it was okay and wanted to go out and do it just because you saw it?
Imitating people is how babies learn. They don't even know that touching is wrong until we teach them. But even the smallest baby knows that violence is wrong. It hurts.
If mental health is the underlying cause of "kids involved in murder crimes" then the same mental health problem makes "kids involved in sex" an underlying cause too. It's not that simple.
Is anyone who has a problem with "monkey see, monkey do" mentally ill by definition, whether it's bungie jumping, sex or hate crimes?
It's true that we're influenced by what we see, read and hear. Who can deny it. But attributing that to mental problems isn't accurate. It's part of being human.
There is a psychology to conditioning viewers that is used by the advertising industry. Some of those techniques were so effective that they've been banned (subliminal messages for example). Other techniques are still employed even though they hurt us (used by the fast food industry for example).
If movies were made using those techniques then I'd agree there'd be more risk by watching depictions of sex. Those techniques ARE used to promote violence though because we condone violence in the USA. Watching depictions of violence may be JUST AS detrimental to a child as watching depictions of sex.
Consider the possibility that some things are more appropriate as an adult than they ever will be for a child to witness. I put clear depictions of sex and violence in that category.
Kids involved in murder crimes are usually sick mentally. I don't know about you @albanian but I agree with @cmiller. Sex is so freely available now, especially when everyone has such easy access to the internet, and it can have an effect on teenagers much more easily than your typical violent movie.
I definitely believe that watching violence is much more of a bad influence to children. Often nowadays the distinction between bad guys and good guys are a lot blurred. In the olden days the violent bad guys was always defeated in the end. So impressionable minds come off with the idea that violence is okay.
I am not saying that a lot of sex on TV or movies is okay. However if parents can explain to kids what is going on ( I cannot) then it would be okay.
Regards
gamchep
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Sure you can stop them from watching it when you're around, but in your average family they'd be embarrassed to do that anyway.
What they do in their rooms, at their friends' houses, and online is not something that you can address by making rules. Your rules will most likely just succeed in introducing more secrecy and distance into your relationship with them. Why do you think parents and kids usually get less close as they get older? It's that ever accumulating list of things you can't talk to mom and dad about because they won't approve.
Instead of focusing on preventing them from doing things, I'd suggest focus on helping them to learn to cope with all those strong emotions they'll be feeling at that age, so they'll choose themselves to do what's going to work out best for them.
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I absolutely HATE violence. It truly repulses me and I've got a real aversion to fight scenes and things like that. It makes me feel sick :s
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M$There was a poll on this very question on www.silverscreenclips.com a few months back. Turned out a whopping 87% of parents would prefer their kids to watch violence!! I disagree..... id prefer a next generation of lovers not fighters
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M$Free speech is good. Censorship is bad.
Children's viewing is no different. The current standards and censorship are upside down.
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I still say I'd rather my kids watch sex rather than violence, but I think it is increasingly difficult to find acceptable, passionate, loving depictions of sex that don't objectify or degrade women. I don't want my boys to treat women as inferiors, and I don't want to teach them that sex is something violent and degrading. So if you can find some hot passion in a movie, I'm in favor of it over violence. But in practice, there's limited material out there.
The Showtime series "The Tudors" had some pretty steamy scenes, and my kids were completely nonplussed.
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i think watching sex is a violence on itself.
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Violence also needs to be looked at in context-- was it gratuitous-or there for a purpose- but I can't remember forbidding them to see a movie just because it was violent...although there were a few we talked about.
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Good points about the other side of the pond @chippy1212 !