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M$1
February 12, 2009 12:55 AM
What is the history behind groomsmen & the best man at weddings?
The more that I think about it, the more I think it's a little bit weird that there's a whole posse of people gathered around the bride & groom at a wedding. How did the tradition start?
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| February 12, 2009 04:03 AM |
This leads to the other tradition of the woman standing to the left of the man, so the presumed right handed groom and best man could keep their hand on their sword, just in case!
The use of having a few groomsmen might just come from the same origin as the bridesmaids. Older cultures believed that evil spirits would try to come to the wedding and try to foil it. The bridesmaids and presumably the groomsmen were there to help confuse these evil spirits from figuring out who the bride and groom were! When the attendants where all dressed similarly, this was supposed to confuse the evil spirits!
The traditions of the best man originated from the Germanic Goths. Historically, it was customary for a man to marry a woman who lived in his town or village. If there were not enough women in the village, the groom would then go to a nearby village and kidnap a woman to be his wife. The groom would ask a close friend (the best man) to assist him in carrying out this task.
The best man would also stand guard at the wedding to ensure the bride’s family would not try to capture her to take her back as well as prevent any other man from capturing her to be their wife.
Another story goes that the groom would choose his closest friend to be his best man. Should the groom die or not be able to care for his wife, it would then be the best man’s responsibility to take the place of the groom. The groom would therefore naturally choose someone close to him, who he can trust that his wife will be cared for if he should die.
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http://www.globalrapidinfo.com/article_a.php?cat=LcIXAypJHyHe&cid=A-200...
http://www.helium.com/items/366000-the-history-behind-including-the-groomsm...
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• Whoa, I never would have thought groomsmen were so hardcore. Thanks for the info!
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February 12, 2009 01:19 AM
The best man is the chief male assistant to the bridegroom at a wedding. In North America and Europe, the groom extends this honour to someone who is close to him, generally either a brother or his closest male friend. While the best man's required duties are only those of a friend, in the context of an American/British white wedding, the best man will typically:
* assist the groom on the wedding day,
* keep the wedding rings safe until needed during the ceremony,
* act as a legal witness to the marriage, and
* make a toast to the bride and groom at the reception.
History: Bridegroom-men and bridesmaids had formerly important duties. The men were called bride-knights, and represented a survival of the primitive days of marriage by capture, when a man called his friends in to assist to "lift" the bride. Bridesmaids were usual in Saxon England. The senior of them had personally to attend the bride for some days before the wedding. The making of the bridal wreath, the decoration of the tables for the wedding feast, the dressing of the bride, were among her special tasks. In the same way the senior groomsman (the best man) was the personal attendant of the husband.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Participants_in_wedding_ceremonies#Groomsmen
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shakespear...
February 12, 2009 01:37 AM
I have nothing to add but a Seinfeld joke: "I don't know why it has to be the best man, seems like the groom should be the *best* man. It should be, the best man..and a bunch of pretty good guys. They're really there to help out the bride, you know - that's why they're all dressed the same. If the groom freaks out and takes off, they all just take one step to the right. You'll notice they don't say the groom's name, they just say, do you take...this man."
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