1 year, 7 months ago
Tom Barret would like to expand birth control coverage to ...
young men and women 15 or older, and at income of $32,940 or less. This link references the topic, http://host.madison.com/wsj/news/local/health_med_fit/article_e9ffcf0f-deb5-5833-8687-b3e3d6626d93.html
1. Do you think this is a good idea? Why or why not?
2. Implications? Good or bad?
1. Do you think this is a good idea? Why or why not?
2. Implications? Good or bad?
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Birth control at that age is an excuse to not educate and assume responsibility of proper teaching and guidance.
Some time back, I spoke to a 13 year old girl whom had become frightened that she had gotten pregnant by her boyfriend who is 17. She had decided she was going to have him punch her in the stomach to loose the baby so she didn't have to tell her parents. THIS IS A COMMON OCCURRENCE!
Now before you say, "Hatred, you're just proving the point." Not so fast, chucklehead.
She is 13 and dating a 17 year old. She is, obviously, having sex. She is unwilling to tell her parents. And when I asked why, she said because she would get grounded. This is a fine example of absent parenting.
Her sense of personal welfare is askew. Safety, barely existent. Trust in her parents to take care of her, questionable. Value of another life beyond her own, vague. She is the product of the people who raise her. Adding the knowledge that she could have sex without getting pregnant just might be the green light she needs to become the school slut! Parents say, "I'm keeping my kids safe." Kids say, "My parents are already aware I would have sex or they wouldn't give me this. So they don't mind."
People should stop going after the damn 'easy switch' every time. Birth control? Hell no! How about good parenting! How about being there for them when they need it. Even if you work all the time, don't be an ass because your day was long and you want to finally have a break! Parenting is a full time job. Be there for your kids what little you can (ie- EVERYTIME your around them). It's tough, it's hard, but it's nothing that hasn't been done before.
Some time back, I spoke to a 13 year old girl whom had become frightened that she had gotten pregnant by her boyfriend who is 17. She had decided she was going to have him punch her in the stomach to loose the baby so she didn't have to tell her parents. THIS IS A COMMON OCCURRENCE!
Now before you say, "Hatred, you're just proving the point." Not so fast, chucklehead.
She is 13 and dating a 17 year old. She is, obviously, having sex. She is unwilling to tell her parents. And when I asked why, she said because she would get grounded. This is a fine example of absent parenting.
Her sense of personal welfare is askew. Safety, barely existent. Trust in her parents to take care of her, questionable. Value of another life beyond her own, vague. She is the product of the people who raise her. Adding the knowledge that she could have sex without getting pregnant just might be the green light she needs to become the school slut! Parents say, "I'm keeping my kids safe." Kids say, "My parents are already aware I would have sex or they wouldn't give me this. So they don't mind."
People should stop going after the damn 'easy switch' every time. Birth control? Hell no! How about good parenting! How about being there for them when they need it. Even if you work all the time, don't be an ass because your day was long and you want to finally have a break! Parenting is a full time job. Be there for your kids what little you can (ie- EVERYTIME your around them). It's tough, it's hard, but it's nothing that hasn't been done before.
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I thoroughly agree with you that good and engaged parenting should be a necessity.
Reading your story, I remember that other forms of abortion are dangerous as well. Some people use hangers, or some kind of medication or alcohol and drugs. Any way you perform abortion, it hurts the woman physically for sure, and physchologically?, who knows.
Chucklehead? Who are you calling a chucklehead? Hehe. :o)'
I dealt with similar things with my sister. My boyfriend at the time, now husband, told me to tell her, if she needed condoms or something to come to me. "I'm keeping my (sister) safe" was a similar response I made to him. But we both knew with her attitude and habits, she was likely having sex already at the age of 15. She never did come to me for condoms, then got pregnant at 16.
My first 'sex' conversation with my mom was when I was 9 or 10 years old, she had said that my father 'did something bad' to her. I was thinking, bad - as in, 'hit', or 'said something hurtful'. As I got older, I gradually understood that 'something bad', was sex. Beyond that conversation, I do not recall her ever clarifying what 'something bad' meant.
So my mom did not properly inform me of what sex was, and nor did high school. I was not a girl that got pregnant by her boyfriend, but my sister was, as was many other high schoolers, what ever the reason.
Where was my dad?, my dad died, my step dad -who fathered my sister, was a dead beat, he didn't like girls to be his children, and mistreated my mom. It was better that we didn't know him.
Sometimes, when parents and schools do not 'want' to or 'can't' educate their kids, for whatever reason, do you think someone else should? Had there been birth control, in the form of education, my sister may not have gotten pregnant at 16. It certainly deterred me, with what little education I got from it. Would she have gotten pregnant even with education? I would like to think not, but I don't know.
What's difficult is, at that age they are guillible, and don't understand the full consequences of having children, unprepared, especially in this day and age, and culture. The school that she and I went to, had a course in it that had you carry around a bag of flour, to act as a child, for one week. I, as a 16 year old, told my teacher that I did the project -and did not actually do the project at all.
I think it would be great if high school, or even middle school, had a program that had their students carry around and take care of a 'child' for a month. That 'child' could be a robotic child, or a younger sibling, or a niece or nephew. It would be great if they could monitor what the students were actually doing in terms of taking care of the 'child'.
I don't think this would be effective for every one, but it would be a deterrent for many.
It's simple things like that (the flour) that would open the doors to a lot questions they might have. Simply showing them that its something that someone wants to talk to them about is enough. Simple child reluctance to "pester" a parent is the main contributor to lack of communication. Who's fault is that? The parents for shrugging off their child when they are tired or just plain lazy.