Revenge is a bittersweet dish. In the short term it felt great! I mean walk on clouds fantastic, but it sank in that I lost the moral high ground.

I felt petty and in the end I don't think it was worth it.
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Yea I did revenge on someone from the past... It felt good for quite a while but I kinda felt bad after. I'm not really the type of person who get back to someone who did something wrong to me. That's why I felt guilty somehow after making my revenge.

If you have unexpressed anger towards somebody, just try to forget it. Revenge is not worth it. You're tarnishing your reputation on someone who doesn't even deserve attention.
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Revenge is never the best route to take.

First of all, we don't know exactly what was going through the mind of the person we feel wronged us. Nine times out of ten, there is some kind of underlying problem related to the person we perceived did us wrong. Perhaps they were abused in their life. Perhaps there is some underlying reason they did what they did that you don't know about.

Secondly, keep in mind that revenge almost always backfires on the person carrying out the deed. You may think you've gotten away with it, but just wait. It could be weeks, months, or even years down the road, but you will some day have to answer for that selfish and incompassionate act. Revenge is very selfish because it is an act that demonstrates your feelings, your emotions are more important that another person's welfare. Even if they did you wrong, it doesn't matter. That is the act THEY will have to answer for in the future. Why commit another wrong that YOU will also have to answer for in the future?

Thirdly, there's something to be said for being the bigger person. Walking away and not taking revenge gives that person a sense of accomplishment. Let's face it, it's hard being the bigger person. It's hard walking away and letting the wrong-doer have his or her laugh. But keep in mind that by walking away, you will be rewarded.

I have personal experience with this. I had a family member who did my husband and I very wrong. She had really gotten over on us. It end up being a legal matter that cost my husband and I over $5,000. Her act, ironically, was out of revenge for something she perceived we did to her, but we really did not. My husband and I both wanted revenge very badly to answer her act of revenge, but we had a moment of enlightenment. I sat down with him one night and told him I felt it would not be in our best interest to take out revenge and that we should sit back, relax, focus on the solution to the damage done, and let karma play out. Here's the ironic part...Due to her having lied to the cops and gotten away with it, she had a sense of overconfidence instilled in her that she could do this to other people she did not like as well. Not even one year later, she was arrested for the first time in her life at age 41 for resisting arrest and assault on a police officer. It got so bad, the SWAT team were called to her residence and busted down the door because she slammed her door in the face of a police officer. Due to this incident, the police began following her around and she ended up with two more DUI charges on top of that. Her fines total well over $10,000 and she will be on probation for the next ten years and has been demoted in rank in the military. This is a professional woman with an extensive military history, someone you would never dream would have such charges on her record.

No, revenge is never the best course of action. Just be patient and the satisfaction will come without ever having to lift a finger and that, my friends, is the sweetest feeling of all; way more sweet than taking revenge and then having to feel guitly for it later. We did nothing to the woman mentioned above and got her just desserts!
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