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 M¢25  Funded By Mahalo ? |  August 01, 2009 07:31 PM

What do you think of first time parenting, after age 50?

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Some people used to consider it unusual to have a baby after 40.

What do you think about any health issues and family issues of parenting after 50?

Interesting fact... My great-grandfather fathered 13 children from age 19 to age 50, and this was back in the early 1900s. His wife, the mother of these 13 children, had her last baby when she was 47, in 1906. 10 of the children survived to adulthood and had very influential lives.

Recently in the news it came up that a woman was given artificial fertilization in her 60's to have children. But she died of natural causes recently, and the twins are only two years old. The woman's brother now has to care for them.

What do you think of handling socially confusing and awkward situations, like people thinking the child's caretaker is their grandparent (when it's really their parent)?

How do situations like this affect the kids? Does a parent's age matter or not?
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August 02, 2009 01:25 AM
Personally I think it is irresponsible and selfish, children require a great deal of energy and at least a good solid 20 years of commitment. There is a reason why our bodies don't allow us to naturally conceive after a certain age, and playing with mother nature is not the responsible way to go. None of us get a guarantee that we will last as long as our children need us to but starting out when you are already over 50 years of age may make you more mentally prepared than ever, but babies, children, and teenagers are not easy and can be a huge physical challenge that at 50 would be a difficult if not impossible task, try dealing with your 16 year old when you are 66. This is not taking into account the higher risks that are involved in having a healthy baby, (see website age associated risk) having a baby born with down syndrome is 1 in 12 at the age of 49. In the end its a personal choice but sometimes we have to follow through to the repercussion of such a choice and decide based on current factors as well as future implications what is the best choice for us along with what is the best choice for our unborn child.
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August 01, 2009 08:32 PM
I think it depends on what shape you're in. I've known sixty year olds with bags of energy who do the triathalon and stuff.

Also if you have good support, say a younger spouse, or siblings that are around and willing to lend a hand, that makes things easier.

Overall I'd be concerned about having the energy level to keep up with parenting young kids. Not just being 50 at their birth but what happens over the next 10-15 years.

Also your chances of dying rise sharply over about 60, and even more so over 70. I would be concerned about the prospect of leaving kids parentless before they get to adulthood.

That said, I've known plenty of people that had older mothers and fathers and they did just fine.

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August 01, 2009 09:57 PM
Everyone has the right to decide when they want to have a child and who they want to have it with, provided both parties are consenting adults.

That said, I would never dream of having a child when I'm 45/50/60 etc. There's no way that someone can have a child at 60 and still be together and strong enough to do everything parents have to do by the time that child's a teenager. I'm not, in any way saying that people can't or shouldn't do it.

It just definitely isn't the way I would go about things.

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August 02, 2009 12:48 AM
I think it's great as long as the parents have enough energy to keep up with the little one.

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