1 year, 12 months ago
My wife has reunited with friend on FB. She is now going out to bars and drinking with this group. I don't know how to cope? Please help.
The group consists of a male who is a pervert, a female who hates me and has told my wife to separate with me, an overly-friendly drunk who has been seen hugging and kissing my wife on the cheek. After one of their bar trips pictures of my wife with men surrounding her were posted on FB.
We are going to counseling. Our counselor is trying to get me to focus on solutions and not problems. He wants me to be comfortable and trust my wife regardless of where she is and who she is with. I have stated that I am NOT comfortable with my wife drinking with men, especially the current group. She has gone drinking before, but not with men and not with such a scenario. She states that she loves me, wants me to trust her, and wants to keep her marriage with me and her relationship with her friends. Recently, she has agreed to stay away from bars for 2 months, but has recently asked to go to a cookout with this group of friends where they would drink and then go to the bars.
I love her, but don't like her choices or friends. She has made terrible judgments in the past similar to this and it ended up with her getting abused by aggressive men. She says I am overreacting and does not feel remorse for what she is doing/has done.
We have four children together and have been married for a difficult 13 years. Our counselor does not promote divorce, I really don't want a divorce, but I do not know how to handle this or what to do.
We are going to counseling. Our counselor is trying to get me to focus on solutions and not problems. He wants me to be comfortable and trust my wife regardless of where she is and who she is with. I have stated that I am NOT comfortable with my wife drinking with men, especially the current group. She has gone drinking before, but not with men and not with such a scenario. She states that she loves me, wants me to trust her, and wants to keep her marriage with me and her relationship with her friends. Recently, she has agreed to stay away from bars for 2 months, but has recently asked to go to a cookout with this group of friends where they would drink and then go to the bars.
I love her, but don't like her choices or friends. She has made terrible judgments in the past similar to this and it ended up with her getting abused by aggressive men. She says I am overreacting and does not feel remorse for what she is doing/has done.
We have four children together and have been married for a difficult 13 years. Our counselor does not promote divorce, I really don't want a divorce, but I do not know how to handle this or what to do.
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Wait it out....sometime in the near future.....infidelity will happen!!! It happens all the time with both men and women committing it. Facebook plays a big part in it too....people see an old friend and all of the sudden they are having a mid-life crisis and they are out drinking every other night with people of the opposite sex.
Give her the space and the rope to hang herself with....she will do it no matter what.
What the hell is wrong with people who have families and go down the path of being alcoholic facebook cheaters?
I can count over a dozen people I know off of the top of my head who have had facebook affairs...both men and women. If you want to put up with it....God bless you for being a better man than I would.
Give her the space and the rope to hang herself with....she will do it no matter what.
What the hell is wrong with people who have families and go down the path of being alcoholic facebook cheaters?
I can count over a dozen people I know off of the top of my head who have had facebook affairs...both men and women. If you want to put up with it....God bless you for being a better man than I would.
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