Marry someone you're in love with but can't get along with or someone you get along with but aren't in love with?
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"Marry someone you're in love with but can't get along with"
Why would someone sign up for a never ending battle for the rest of their life? If they really love the other person they shouldn't want to burden them with many decades of quarrels. They either need to learn how to get along with their partner or move on. Love should come with understanding, empathy and compassion, and if one can't get along with a partner they likely don't love them enough.
"Marry someone you get along with but aren't in love with?"
What's the point? This is a more exploitative version of "friends with benefits". If they don't love their partner, why tie them up in a life long commitment? Tax benefits? Convenient sex? Ultimately this sort of relation will be destructive to both partners. Sooner or later the unloved partner will catch on and feel hurt. If the unloved partner already knows, they will forever feel guilty, unloved and insecure and will fear infidelity. The unloving partner will also be giving out a life time of happiness with a person they love and will come to resent their poorly chosen partner. Expediency and convenience is not a substitute for love. It won't work.
Love alone isn't enough, nor is compatibility. Without both one merely ends up contributing to the divorce statistic. Even worse, a selfish and foolish marriage choice can end up devastating any children from that marriage when the marriage eventually falls apart.
Anyone considering either of these choices needs to reconsider. With 6.782 billion people on the planet today, there has to be someone that they can both love and get along with.
To anyone considering making such a choice:
Buy two copies of the book "Are You the One for Me". Read it and have your partner read it. It's a great compatibility checker and helps you objectively analyze a very subjective and emotional situation.
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I was about to answer this question, then read your answer. It can't be topped. I too would take the silent option C: (neither)!
I was about to answer the question in a similar manner, but you've said it far more eloquently than I was going to.
In either case marriage isn't a good option unless you a) both grow to the point where you can get along with each other, or b) you do both love each other.