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My parents say I'm addicted to Mahalo and they are going to block the website. What do I do?
Mahalo is a great website, and I have learned a lot by asking questions and doing research to answer questions. How is the best way to approach the situation? Do I find a way past parental controls, or do I give in and wave the flag?
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Perhaps they don't understand Mahalo and how you are using it as an educational tool.
Show them your pages on Astronomy and Albert Einstein, Show them your Extrasolar Planets page and explain how by spending time building and researching this topic you were able to win M$15 in a contest.
Show them your profile and explain how you have earned over $100 by participating.
It feels to me like if a parent is going to ban their child from building web pages on topics like String Theory (another @matthewh page) it's almost like banning your child from reading textbooks.
I'm not going to make any assumptions, but perhaps your parents simply don't fully understand what you are doing on the Internet, I hope you are able to sit them down and explain to them there is no harm in this community. Good Luck!
Show them your pages on Astronomy and Albert Einstein, Show them your Extrasolar Planets page and explain how by spending time building and researching this topic you were able to win M$15 in a contest.
Show them your profile and explain how you have earned over $100 by participating.
It feels to me like if a parent is going to ban their child from building web pages on topics like String Theory (another @matthewh page) it's almost like banning your child from reading textbooks.
I'm not going to make any assumptions, but perhaps your parents simply don't fully understand what you are doing on the Internet, I hope you are able to sit them down and explain to them there is no harm in this community. Good Luck!
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You could also show them this thread lol. You could also ask them to join and get them to ask questions on Mahalo Answers about Mahalo, about the stuff they don't understand.
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I feel that this site can be very educational. It ispires you to research a subject that you might not know the answer to. But it does depend on the subjects that you are writing about.
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Ask your parents why they feel the way they do. Do they think that you're spending time on Mahalo instead of focusing on a job, schoolwork, or socialization with off line friends? If so, maybe you can negotiate a time limit.
If it's that they don't understand what you're doing on Mahalo, suggest that they set up an account and join in. That may help them to be more comfortable with the site, and the time you're investing here.
I do not recommend that you try to find away around what they are telling you to do. That is a breach of trust in your relationship, and would demonstrate a lack of integrity.
If it's that they don't understand what you're doing on Mahalo, suggest that they set up an account and join in. That may help them to be more comfortable with the site, and the time you're investing here.
I do not recommend that you try to find away around what they are telling you to do. That is a breach of trust in your relationship, and would demonstrate a lack of integrity.
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If you do decide to try to get your parents involved, your mother might be interested in managing the Nutrisystem page--as you mentioned in another answer that she enjoyed the diet. Perhaps by editing the page, she'd see how valuable a resource Mahalo is, and understand a little better what you're doing on the site.
I certainly don't advise you to get around parental controls.
What you may want to look into...
- What activities does Mahalo displace? If you're here rather than on other websites or watching TV, that's no reason for concern in itself. It might be a plus as you're learning things and maybe making some money.
- However your overall level of surfing or TV watching might be an issue.
- If it's distracting you from getting work done, taking part in family activities, or getting out with your friends, that is a cause for concern.
A possible approach would be to discuss everything with them and agree what is a wise amount of time to spend online / on Mahalo.
Then you can use tools like Leechblock to help you monitor and control usage.
https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/4476
If you have a problem with self-control it's probably good to acknowledge that and recognise it as something you need to work on. In that regard, realise that your parents just want what is best for you in the long run.
What you may want to look into...
- What activities does Mahalo displace? If you're here rather than on other websites or watching TV, that's no reason for concern in itself. It might be a plus as you're learning things and maybe making some money.
- However your overall level of surfing or TV watching might be an issue.
- If it's distracting you from getting work done, taking part in family activities, or getting out with your friends, that is a cause for concern.
A possible approach would be to discuss everything with them and agree what is a wise amount of time to spend online / on Mahalo.
Then you can use tools like Leechblock to help you monitor and control usage.
https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/4476
If you have a problem with self-control it's probably good to acknowledge that and recognise it as something you need to work on. In that regard, realise that your parents just want what is best for you in the long run.
Explain to your parents exactly what you are doing, what you are learning and exactly what topics you are reading about. Ask your parents if they will set a reasonable time limit for you to use Mahalo, and/or "web surfing". Stick to it, or you will lose their trust. good luck!
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I suggest asking your parents if there is a certain time limit that you can use it rather than not at all. If they see the work you've put into, I think they will understand. If not, propose that they join the site and try it out for a week. Let them see for themselves if they think it is worth it.
Having been a parent for 27 years and having raised 2 sons and 2 stepsons... this is my two cents.
1. Never go behind your parents back to go against their wishes.
2. Try to find out what there exact concerns are about Mahalo.
3. If it is simply the amount of time that you spend here... try to make a compromise between the time you currently spend here and what they think should be the time you spend here.
4. They may feel you are not living a balanced life... that you should be out more... working... being with people offline... developing relationships offline... (I have many dear online friends that I will probably never meet face to face but I value their friendship) people who don't have online friends don't always understand this. Basically find out what their main concerns are and then try to address them. I am thinking that there thoughts may be "all things in moderation" and there is a lot to be said for that.
5. I also think that seeing some of the quality of work that you do here would probably help. Particularly any tasks where you had to do research to develop that answer. I actually enjoy the process of researching questions and tasks.
6. I think it would be a kick to get them to sign on here and ask Mahaloians about why we do what we do.
7. Clearly if they are calling it an addiction they are concerned about your time here..." to devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively" Webster
Basically, I think it is in your best interest to communicate with your parents and look for a compromise.... all or nothing... is not always the best answer. I would rather cut back my time here some then completely to lose my ability to participate here. Call for a meeting my young friend and work on understanding your parents and let them in so they can understand you. Best of luck on this one.... "Communicate" "Compromise" and "Continue" participating here!
1. Never go behind your parents back to go against their wishes.
2. Try to find out what there exact concerns are about Mahalo.
3. If it is simply the amount of time that you spend here... try to make a compromise between the time you currently spend here and what they think should be the time you spend here.
4. They may feel you are not living a balanced life... that you should be out more... working... being with people offline... developing relationships offline... (I have many dear online friends that I will probably never meet face to face but I value their friendship) people who don't have online friends don't always understand this. Basically find out what their main concerns are and then try to address them. I am thinking that there thoughts may be "all things in moderation" and there is a lot to be said for that.
5. I also think that seeing some of the quality of work that you do here would probably help. Particularly any tasks where you had to do research to develop that answer. I actually enjoy the process of researching questions and tasks.
6. I think it would be a kick to get them to sign on here and ask Mahaloians about why we do what we do.
7. Clearly if they are calling it an addiction they are concerned about your time here..." to devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively" Webster
Basically, I think it is in your best interest to communicate with your parents and look for a compromise.... all or nothing... is not always the best answer. I would rather cut back my time here some then completely to lose my ability to participate here. Call for a meeting my young friend and work on understanding your parents and let them in so they can understand you. Best of luck on this one.... "Communicate" "Compromise" and "Continue" participating here!
Tell them it's more informative and educational than what your friends likely do all day (World of Warcraft and such).
You're asking for advice from people who work on Mahalo so it is likely that you will get answers that are geared towards persuading you to convince your parents that you should continue to use the site. Though, it might just be in your best interest to take this advice as sound if you have learned a lot from Mahalo and have made money. If you tell your parents that you have done all of the above and they are still adamant on blocking this site you should question their logic. If they do not provide a good reason you can also always find other ways of making money online and other ways of helping people, online. I hope this helps.
If you are under eighteen, your parents have the right to block it and tell you that you may not use it. End of story.
If I were you, I would talk to them about it, and tell them about the virtues of Mahalo. It's a good place to exercise your mind and learn to do research. You can make a little spending money off it. You get to learn about a wide variety of topics.
Now, if Mahalo is keeping you from your homework or other important family matters, then you would need to cut the Mahalo time back as well. Maybe you can come to a compromise with them.
If I were you, I would talk to them about it, and tell them about the virtues of Mahalo. It's a good place to exercise your mind and learn to do research. You can make a little spending money off it. You get to learn about a wide variety of topics.
Now, if Mahalo is keeping you from your homework or other important family matters, then you would need to cut the Mahalo time back as well. Maybe you can come to a compromise with them.
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I'm guessing your parents aren't aware of what Mahalo is all about. Show them your profile, what types of activities go on here at Mahalo. Show them how you can and are earning some money by answering questions, working on tasks, doing research and being helpful to others. Unless being on Mahalo is interfering with chores, job, family related activities, I can't see why your parents would object. Educate them on hat Mahalo is all about.
tell them that mahalo gives you a big big help in all your questions...and this is a fun and cool community,,ask her also to join to know the feeling..lol
I tell them this site is decent,that you dont get some of the nastiness you see on other websites.
Compromise always seems like the best option but you have to stick to your end of the bargain even if it means limiting your time on Mahalo. As someone else suggested, you should show your parents this thread and perhaps they will understand better.
sit with crossed legs...........close your eyes...........join your pinkie finger and thumb of respective hands........start breathing completely and deeple.....start at fairly fast pace...but make sure to keep breathing deple through your diaphragm........start with inhalations and exhalations each of two to three seconds........do it for 16 breaths.....after that keep increasing the length of inhalation and exhalation by one count and do that ratio for 16 breaths......till you reach the point where you are breathing 4 breaths perminute.....that is inhalation and exhalaltion are both of 7 to 8 counts..........till you reach 4 breaths per minute mark....see the golden light filing your whole body..........when you reach this point project in your mind your parents have allowed you to do mahalo and have understood its importance...............do it only when you reach the 4 breaths per minute not before it..............after finishing the projection sit for just five minutes and just let go of the breath and just be aware of the breath....and there you are...you have done it
tags: meditation, manifestation
Great help for those who want to learn to meditate, but not sure it will help in this case. Thanks for sharing though.
you could stop using it for a while so they think that you're not addicted to it or you could tell them how mahalo is educational and let them try it for their selves. You could also keep a tiem limit,like an hour or half an hour a day on mahalo.
hoped this helped. : )
hoped this helped. : )
Clean your room, take out the trash, get your homework done, do the dishes, sort and do the laundry, clean the garage. Parents don't mind you getting on the net as long as they see that you are not obsessing and as long as the other things in your life that need to be done get done. I raised two boys, one of whom was computer crazy so I know what I'm talking about.
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I am pretty sure this is what you are looking for http://tr.im/qXu9
And I don't know what you're talking about blowing up that string theory page.... All he did was add 3 google add units
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And I don't know what you're talking about blowing up that string theory page.... All he did was add 3 google add units
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Tell them it is a friendly internet environment where people can ask a question and learn from the response they get
dear matthew h:
your parents are saying you are addicted to Mahalo, and they are going to block the website. you want to know what to do.
as a parent, I often worrie when my children spend most of their day on the Internet, but when that happens we talk about what they are doing. i would suggest you negotiate with your parents. perhaps explain to them the core values of the Mahalo site. find out what they are afraid of, and see whether they have legitimate concerns that you can address. show them the site, and how you are using it. ask them if you can help them get started. see if those things will help.
your parents are saying you are addicted to Mahalo, and they are going to block the website. you want to know what to do.
as a parent, I often worrie when my children spend most of their day on the Internet, but when that happens we talk about what they are doing. i would suggest you negotiate with your parents. perhaps explain to them the core values of the Mahalo site. find out what they are afraid of, and see whether they have legitimate concerns that you can address. show them the site, and how you are using it. ask them if you can help them get started. see if those things will help.
Dang, ok well I was talking to my mom and she says and "addiction like Mahalo is a good thing it is better than doing drugs." Basically my mom is saying that your parents should be thrilled that you are addicted to something so simple. Other than something that can really ruin your life. 
http://i1018.photobucket.com/albums/af310/mysterygirl89/Anti-drug.jpg
Maybe, key word maybe, you parents are just concerned. My mother hates that I have a Myspace because she fears for my safety. Maybe you parents fear that Mahalo is similar to Myspace. Have you explained to them that Mahalo is a place filled with Knowledge.
I agree with @jeffhoard here, show them your amazing pages like the amazing Extrasolar Planets I love that page.
Talk to your parents about the website. Just in case you already have, I would recommend doing it again. If they are still against you being on Mahalo for so long perhaps you and your parents can make a deal. Examples: 15 minutes per 2 hours or something like that. You know negotiate to around the time you usually spend on here and maybe cut it in half.
Parents always have reasons for doing things and they seem to try to look out for the best interest for their child. Explain to them that this is an educational website. I actually get my mother involved in the question and answering process of Mahalo. Sometimes I will read her a question and ask for advice on what I can answer; usually I add what she has to say to my answer but not always. This way I keep my parents involved. She understands what the website is about and how it works and she learns what types of questions are being asked on here. Maybe try to get your parents involved, but then again if they do not like the website maybe this is not a good idea.
Hmm… I just think the best number one idea would be to talk to them. Good luck (^_^)V
Maybe, key word maybe, you parents are just concerned. My mother hates that I have a Myspace because she fears for my safety. Maybe you parents fear that Mahalo is similar to Myspace. Have you explained to them that Mahalo is a place filled with Knowledge.
I agree with @jeffhoard here, show them your amazing pages like the amazing Extrasolar Planets I love that page.
Talk to your parents about the website. Just in case you already have, I would recommend doing it again. If they are still against you being on Mahalo for so long perhaps you and your parents can make a deal. Examples: 15 minutes per 2 hours or something like that. You know negotiate to around the time you usually spend on here and maybe cut it in half.
Parents always have reasons for doing things and they seem to try to look out for the best interest for their child. Explain to them that this is an educational website. I actually get my mother involved in the question and answering process of Mahalo. Sometimes I will read her a question and ask for advice on what I can answer; usually I add what she has to say to my answer but not always. This way I keep my parents involved. She understands what the website is about and how it works and she learns what types of questions are being asked on here. Maybe try to get your parents involved, but then again if they do not like the website maybe this is not a good idea.
Hmm… I just think the best number one idea would be to talk to them. Good luck (^_^)V
consider getting a job: http://www.mahalo.com/how-to-find-a-job
eg. full or part time, volunteer or paid, summer or school year
eg. school library helping librarian, public library, etc.
eg. local newspaper helping research/write stories or writing them yourself
eg. write magazine articles, blog submissions to blogs in area of interest,
books, build a research and writing resume to use for college/university
admission to part time work in college/university library/newspaper, then
admission to library/journalism/education/science programs where you can become a researcher or professor or graduate to write, research, publish on your own or for companies eg. on web, newsletters, run your own websites, blogs for resume etc.
read these:
http://www.mahalo.com/answers/journalism/can-you-become-a-journalist-without-a-journalism-degree
http://www.ala.org/Template.cfm?Section=alafaq&template=/cfapps/faq/faq.cfm#4
http://www.fims.uwo.ca/ see if they interest you - you need a 4 year university degree to get in to most I think
http://copywriterunderground.com/2008/06/12/for-10hour-you-should-write-perfect-copy-and-lots-of-it/ Mahalo not hiring now I think
http://www.freep.com/legacy/jobspage/toolkit/proforg.htm
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=writers+market&x=0&y=0 buy or find & read
whatever is of interest to you from your public library or big box bookstore and start your future today rather than later
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=how+to+read+a+book&x=0&y=0 read and learn the
first two books at least and you will be set for life re: your literacy unlike most people in the world today
http://blogs.payscale.com/salarystories/2007/02/journalist_sala.html
http://www.mahalo.com/answers/money/best-free-job-training-you-can-find-online read and learn some
http://www.amazon.com/Final-Encyclopedia-Dickson/dp/B000MS8FVG/ 696 pages this is what Jason is building The Final Encyclopedia
On twitter http://www.twitter.com follow him: ThomasHensel he is a great science person to use as an example of someone
living their life in science and having a blast - I think you need a doctorate or masters to do what he does or ask
him for suggestions, he KNOWS science and is connected,...
find people doing the kind of work you think you would like, see what qualifications you need, read university and
college program calendars about the kinds of courses they have and programs and start to decide what you want to do
in life.
I went through the same thing and nothing did work to convince them I was not addicted so I figured out how to get the work experience, qualifications, and went to school and completed the program needed to do the thing I was
banned from doing as a career choice and maybe if I hadn't been addicted, and that hadn't happened, I would still be sitting there having fun when it was time get on with it, make plans, and to do something about my life.
You can take these things in a positive or negative way, entirely up to you.
So, if that happens, Mahalo will still be there, get a life, then come back later when you can if you have time and help others to get going in
their lives and the cycle continues...... good luck!
You get on that horse and ride to your life, no white flag, no cheating, quitting, take the reins and live your life for real not just when you are inside a computer screen while the electricity is turned on.....and then you turn yourself off and there is nothing left in your life that belongs to you other than memories. If you stay at Mahalo forever, you have the option of never earning enough money to marry, have children, buy a home, educate your children, buy a car or a dog, or rent a home for that matter, you will be living with your parents forever under parental control, think about that one!
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eg. full or part time, volunteer or paid, summer or school year
eg. school library helping librarian, public library, etc.
eg. local newspaper helping research/write stories or writing them yourself
eg. write magazine articles, blog submissions to blogs in area of interest,
books, build a research and writing resume to use for college/university
admission to part time work in college/university library/newspaper, then
admission to library/journalism/education/science programs where you can become a researcher or professor or graduate to write, research, publish on your own or for companies eg. on web, newsletters, run your own websites, blogs for resume etc.
read these:
http://www.mahalo.com/answers/journalism/can-you-become-a-journalist-without-a-journalism-degree
http://www.ala.org/Template.cfm?Section=alafaq&template=/cfapps/faq/faq.cfm#4
http://www.fims.uwo.ca/ see if they interest you - you need a 4 year university degree to get in to most I think
http://copywriterunderground.com/2008/06/12/for-10hour-you-should-write-perfect-copy-and-lots-of-it/ Mahalo not hiring now I think
http://www.freep.com/legacy/jobspage/toolkit/proforg.htm
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=writers+market&x=0&y=0 buy or find & read
whatever is of interest to you from your public library or big box bookstore and start your future today rather than later
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=how+to+read+a+book&x=0&y=0 read and learn the
first two books at least and you will be set for life re: your literacy unlike most people in the world today
http://blogs.payscale.com/salarystories/2007/02/journalist_sala.html
http://www.mahalo.com/answers/money/best-free-job-training-you-can-find-online read and learn some
http://www.amazon.com/Final-Encyclopedia-Dickson/dp/B000MS8FVG/ 696 pages this is what Jason is building The Final Encyclopedia
On twitter http://www.twitter.com follow him: ThomasHensel he is a great science person to use as an example of someone
living their life in science and having a blast - I think you need a doctorate or masters to do what he does or ask
him for suggestions, he KNOWS science and is connected,...
find people doing the kind of work you think you would like, see what qualifications you need, read university and
college program calendars about the kinds of courses they have and programs and start to decide what you want to do
in life.
I went through the same thing and nothing did work to convince them I was not addicted so I figured out how to get the work experience, qualifications, and went to school and completed the program needed to do the thing I was
banned from doing as a career choice and maybe if I hadn't been addicted, and that hadn't happened, I would still be sitting there having fun when it was time get on with it, make plans, and to do something about my life.
You can take these things in a positive or negative way, entirely up to you.
So, if that happens, Mahalo will still be there, get a life, then come back later when you can if you have time and help others to get going in
their lives and the cycle continues...... good luck!
You get on that horse and ride to your life, no white flag, no cheating, quitting, take the reins and live your life for real not just when you are inside a computer screen while the electricity is turned on.....and then you turn yourself off and there is nothing left in your life that belongs to you other than memories. If you stay at Mahalo forever, you have the option of never earning enough money to marry, have children, buy a home, educate your children, buy a car or a dog, or rent a home for that matter, you will be living with your parents forever under parental control, think about that one!
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voted helpful: raymondc
Try to explain how Mahalo works and that it is not really a waste of time. Also bargain with them, say you will cut your time in half if you can stay on here.
Finally, maybe if they seen a paycheck, that would change their mind too!
Good luck.
Finally, maybe if they seen a paycheck, that would change their mind too!
Good luck.
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