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chris25prince | July 05, 2009 11:16 AM | in Love & Relationships | via Twitter | about Breaking Up

Whats the best way to break up with someone? how do you let go?

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BEST ANSWER decided by votes | geminigail | July 06, 2009 01:05 AM | view on twitter

Yep - eye to eye is best. But if that's impossible because you feel too bad or that you are hurting the other person - then perhaps a short note or email that offers a phone call follow-up. You don't have to answer the phone right away giving them time to digest the news.

It really depends on the relationship. If you've vested a lot of time, feelings and experiences together it will be harder to sever ties and the other person does deserve to hear it face to face. If it was a casual shorter term relationship it may be easier to end.

Then there is always the 'use a friend to tell 'em' scenario. You could ask a trusted friend to break the ice by dropping a hint or two to your soon to be ex and then wait until they approach you about the rumor. They will still have had time to contemplate the idea of a breakup and it won't be such a shocker.

If you are tech savvy you can always use the web: make a YouTube video, or send a Tweet on Twitter or a message thru Facebook or MySpace ! Be creative ! Just kidding about those tech methods - they are kind of cruel in my opinion - but they have been used no doubt !

Good luck with your challenging task - it's never easy to end a relationship but you know what's best for you - what works and what does not. Try to look beyond the breakup and how life will be after and that should give you some courage to get through it. Nothing stays the same - everthing changes !

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Voted as best: emmylou, beast1oh1, bestpay, rising falls

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janakan | July 05, 2009 11:59 AM

I would recommend:

1) Face to face
2) As direct as possible (better to be honest and clear even if it hurts)
3) Even if you feel bad, or regret, don't try to be the person's best friend afterwards. They need to be mad at you for a while, its the kind thing to do.

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pellrider | July 06, 2009 12:49 PM | view on twitter

It depends on how close you were and how long you were together. If you were together for a long time, give them the doubt first, then go face to face with it. So the person can handle it. But when you are talking face to face be clear that the relation is over.
Once you let it out, just move on with the future and get space for the person to heel and get a grip on life. (I am assuming, the other person still love you deeply).

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trinifigueroa | July 08, 2009 03:00 AM | view on twitter

The best way to break up with someone is on a public place. In this way if the person goes crazy, there are witnesses. It is also a good idea to be nice. Use kind words when you talk to them and explain them why it is necessary to break up. Mention to them that you can still be friends, but that for a while (ex. two or three months) you shouldn't speak to one another. In this way the break up is real.

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