Hehehe... I hate it when people ask this question/variations of this question to me.

I suppose, a good answer for them, (especially judging by what you wrote) would be;

Because I havn't found the one for me yet!

Judging by what you wrote you seem to have a pretty good head on your shoulders, don't listen to what other people say, and don't settle for something that is not what you really really want. I find too many people, especially young people rush into relationships simply because they feel the need to be with someone, or there is a social pressure to be with someone.

I happen to be at the age where most of my friends are in the process of getting married off and starting a family... nothing tells a sadder story than running into an old highschool friend who is newly married with a young baby and asking them how the family is, only to get an avoidance answer like "well, work is going well" along with a downward cast glance and a twinkle of mistake in their eye...

Take your time, you're young. The right guy will come along eventually, or he wont. Who cares? There is more to life than boys.
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It could be that some guy in one of your classes likes you, but doesn't ask you out because he assumes that one of those dudes you are always hanging out with must be your boyfriend. Think about it.

Find some girls to hang with.

1 They will like you for you, not just to get in your pants.
2 That nice guy who wants to ask you out won't assume you are unavailable.
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experience

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Firstly, stop hanging out with the losers. I remember from one of your last posts that these "friends" of yours seem to think you're a penny slot, not a friend. Hanging out with them, you're probably communicating that a) you have all of the male attention you want, so no decent guy is going to feel comfortable approaching you, or even assuming you're single, and b) you're, well...one of "those" girls. I hate to be so blunt, but crowds of guys like yours usually have a few hanger-on girls who are in fact their go-to sluts. You are not this person, but I would bet plenty of people think you are. Guys who want long-term relationships look for them in other crowds.

Join some clubs at school, do some volunteer work, and go places where MATURE guys are. You recognize that your crowd is immature guys just chasing tail, and yet you seem to be waiting for a prince to emerge from the heap. Not gonna happen! If you want people to recognize you for your personality, you need to go places where personality matters. That is not a bar, a frat house, or a drunken party. It's someplace where you're working towards a goal, collaborating with other people in a productive way, and being yourself.

Once again: ditch your loser crowd! You're sending the wrong message.
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just keep being yourself and don't worry about your friends, they will probably always be just friends, I would know I have all of one chick friend and a million guy friends. I would really suggest just stop searching, a guy will come for you when one is ready, also never date within your group of friends it just makes things messy if it ends. But really your in college just have fun, but keep your innocents in the end the right guy is going to love that about you so cling to it. Join a club or something.
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Ha I have been "one of the boys" all through high school, graduation day I was the only girl without a dress and I stood with my guy friends laughing at the dumb girls, but I have a boyfriend who I can be a girl around.

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Q: Whats a pretty girl like you doing without a boyfriend?

A: Enjoying life to the fullest without any emotional baggage!

I know a woman who is 27 now, still a virgin and happy in her career. She just hasn't found the right person and isn't sure she ever will or needs to. Her interests are very eclectic. She's very confident and particular.

Every now and then she wonders about being with someone but the reality of meeting strangers like an interview for dating and the quality of partners she encounters in her life just make her happy she's not bogged down like most women who worry about it.

If she never finds someone to be with, she'll not be any worse for it. She'll always be who she is and loved for that by her friends.

Relax, enjoy your life. It's a myth that a woman needs a man to be happy. Or any partner for that matter. Be happy, be free!

If you're the type that wants to be in a relationship one day, it'll happen. You can't rush perfection. It took 13 years of being best friends before my (now) wife told me it was time for us to get married. She was right. :) I've never been happier!
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First off, you're not alone. I think a lot of shy girls wind up hanging out with the guys because its an easy way to get male attention.

Its been my experience, although I was unaware of it at the time, that when you're the single girl hanging with a group of guys, they all want you for different reasons, be it sex, status, or that they are genuinely interested in you.

You said that you've wanted to be in a relationship for a really long time, well your choices may not be reflecting that. Usually when we want something badly, we inadvertenly push it away. For me, I realized that I spent so much time waiting because I was afraid. But there were also moments of desperation where I would find myself attracted to guys who just obviously didn't work. So we'd date and I'd have a moral dilemma, and we'd end almost as soon as we'd began.

The guys you hang out with aren't your only dating pool, but you are restricting yourself to them and also allowing them to shape your view of guys in general.

Branch out. There are plenty of quality guys out there who want what you want. What do you want?
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