Absolutely not, and my reasoning is that even true love takes work. If it was effortless, then two people would not have come together in the first place to date. So, my answer is that it cannot be effortless. There has to be effort put forth on both sides for true love.
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No way. It takes effort to keep your partner happy. What it shouldn't be is a one-way thing. You should work to keep each other happy. A major part of your interaction with your true love is something you do together. How often do you always want to do the exact same thing? Sometimes you just grin and bare it just for them :)
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It depends on the true meaning of your question. As it is, everybody will say it takes work to maintain harmony, but what do you mean? If you do not want to look good and share the interests of the other one, maybe you are not in love. If you have to work all the time to maintain a glimmer of interest for you in the other one, maybe the other one is not in love. I would define true love not in terms of "work" but in terms of trust, being comfortable with one another. If you are not comfortable, maybe then, let it go.
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I really don't think there IS a such a thing called "true love". What I get from that is that there is that one person out there that is just for you. I think there are many people out there that are compatable with you and fit very well with you, but like others have said, love takes work. Long-term couples know this to be true...
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Not at all. BBC posted a great article last month on how watching romantic comedies can actually harm your love life. The study cited is applicable to your question. Those people who watch a lot of romantic comedies tend to develop unrealistic expectations about "true love" and have a tendency not to communicate effectively with their partners because they think that if their partner truly loves them, he or she should know what they're thinking. Common sense and experience tells us that no one can ever truly know what another person is thinking or feeling.

As university researcher Dr. Bjarne Holmes said: "Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it...The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise."

Whether or not you believe in "true love," the fact remains that any relationship takes work and arguably the most important thing to keep any relationship working is clear, effective and constant communication. To quote (or paraphrase) an old adage, "anything worth having is worth fighting for," and it is that commitment to strive, fight, adapt, compromise, communicate and persevere that formulates an effective, loving and long lasting relationship.
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http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/scotland/edinburgh_and_east/7784366.stm

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Compare love to lust.

Lust is easy, biology and our physiological responses to a person determine how we might lust after them.

Love is something that goes beyond the physical, it involves minds and hearts, thoughts and ideas. Physical love is certainly a component but it's not the only player. As exemplified by people who love each other dearly into old age, it transcends the "simplicity" of physical attraction and challenges people to really get to know each other. Compared to love, lust is a cakewalk, so definitely love requires effort.
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In a loving relationship since 1991.

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Actually, I'm going to go the other way and say, yes. True love should totally be effortless. Of course love is just a feeling, and it ebbs and flows, because we have to deal with real people. So a RELATIONSHIP is going to take a lot of work, no matter how true the love.
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