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Should i break up with my gf because of this?

Should i break up with my gf because of this?
Well i have been dating this girl named amber, but recently she was talking to her ex (jimmy) on facebook. Well i logged in to her facebook so i could put "I <3 you" as a surprise. When i happen to see her chat with jimmy pop open once i was logged in, and i saw her tell him that she loved him. I then finished reading the rest and waited out the rest of the day. Then i told her i saw it, and she was like speechless about it. She told me that it was for closure between them, and she did talk to me about the closure thing before. She told me she was enjoying the attention he was giving her, and that she doesn't want him back. After she apologized and told me she wanted to be with me, and that she had to find out on her own about her feelings.That they were stronger then the ones she still had for him. She then told me she wrote a note about it that explained everything earlier that day. What should i do? Should i breakup? I mean people have told me that she was only sorry because she was caught. That i shouldn't date her. So i just need some feedback on what i should do. Please help
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March 06, 2009 02:46 AM
I don't think you have to. If you feel like you cant trust her then think more about it but as far as I can see and I might just be misinterprationg things here but she just wanted the attention. All girls love attention thats why they wear little clothes and show off the bit guys want to see and that make other girls jelous. I would try giving her more attention witch if you were really just going on to her fackbook to wright that then you already do give her attention but she want more.

Flirting should be a sosialy acseptable thing so long as it doesn't go to far. If you think she is the sort of person to cheat then brake up but if not and you can handle her flirting then by telling her thats it's ok to flirt she won't feel like she has to hide anything from you.
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March 06, 2009 03:34 AM
If you feel you have to spy on her, then you dont trust her. If trust is important, you should move on.

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irishsteph... irishsteph...
 
March 06, 2009 09:33 PM
This completely all boils down to trust.

Option 1. You can say "Okay, it's cool, I understand that you need closure," and move forward - however you have to have the maturity to honestly do that. If you can trust her to be honest and that was really the deal, then you should be okay. HOWEVER, if you're unable to honestly and truly get past this, and you DO "forgive" her, the question of her "honesty" will eat at you like acid every day and eventually either make you insane, or piss her off to the point where she'll break up with YOU.

Option 2. Just go ahead and break it off. Trust is a fragile thing. It's hard to gain, easy to lose and even harder to recover once it's been lost. And honestly, because of this, I doubt (but truly HOPE) that you can ever totally trust her again. Every time she gets a text, an IM or even a phone call, in the back of your head, you'll be going, "Who is that REALLY?"

Bro, I've been there - it's not worth the pain.
Let her go and find someone who only wants to talk to YOU.

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