If by coming out you mean he's redefined his definition of sexual attraction he may have rough waters ahead as his girlfriend may feel she's failed him somehow. People often try to feel responsible for others decisions.

If his "coming out" is more of a discovery and emotional journey, as well as physical, then not much has to change. It's easy to continue to love his girlfriend, talk things over and ease each others transition and discovery together.

Best option is always honesty in the long run. If he's feeling defensive or confused about the right thing to do it's likely he still hasn't figured out what is more important yet and needs time to sort things out.

I point out the defensive thing because when I'm honest about my own sexuality I don't find the need to be defensive at all. It is what it is and generally it's not a matter for public discussion. Some people feel the need to be validated by others before they settle their own minds and heart over the matter.

I found the article linked below helpful in answering your question.
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http://gaylife.about.com/od/comingout/ss/comingout_2.htm


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