I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but these guys are not your "friends" in any real sense. They may make you feel good about yourself by giving you attention that you're not used to & they may be a lot of fun to hang out with, but they do not have your best interests at heart. I'm not saying that they aren't wonderful people, they may very well be, but men & women cannot be "just" friends. Once puberty hits, the hormones take over & it is all about sex. I'm not saying that there has never been a man & a woman that were just friends, but they would be the exception, not the rule. In order for a friendship to exist, both parties are getting something out of the relationship. In your case, you are getting attention & they are getting the slightest possibility of sex. It's very hard to make female friends at this time in your life because you are in competition for male attention & there can be alot of jealousy & insecurity, but it is well worth the effort. Do yourself a big favor & make some female friends so you have someone in your life that doesn't want anything from you but friendship. Acting sexy or having sex just to make these guys happy would be a huge mistake & once they got what they wanted, you would be tossed away like yesterdays news. Check out "The ABC's of Finding a Good Husband" by Stephen Wood for great advice on knowing a good guy when you see one & how to be a good wife. Good luck to you!
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I totally agree these are not your friends. They want you to be their go-to slut when they're bored. "Typical" guys do not try to get sex out of their female friends. If they were your friends, you could actually talk to them and they would be supportive and loving. These guys would sleep with you, post about in online, then ditch you.

You need to make some friends who like you for who you are, and don't try to pressure you into changing. Find some clubs at school that genuinely interest you. You'll meet people there who share your interests. Join some study groups as well. You might also benefit from some counseling, which is often free through your school.

Ditch these jerks. And make sure your first is some important, who cares about you, and wants to be with you. You will forever regret losing your virginity to the type of loser you're hanging around with. Believe me.
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If they expect you to sleep with them and or dress sexy then they are not really your friends to begin with. If people strive to look "Sexy" it often comes out as slutty. If a guy is attracted to you, he will think the way you act and dress already is sexy.
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Alright next time they call you a prude tell them that you would rather not sleep around and become some dirty sperm bank full of crabs and herpes, and be proud that you are a virgin, so many people lose it at the wrong time and regret it for the rest of their lives. I would say don't try to impress them just be yourself if they are really your friends and not just a bunch of idiots trying to get in your pants then they will still be around. Now for the whole low self esteem thing, focus on the pros and not the cons of your body, you will soon start to love your self and become more confident, and when you are confident the boys will probably stop treating you like some common girl. I have lots of guy friends, actually I only have one real chick friend, so I know what it's like to be surrounded by dudes, just show them who is boss and don't change your self and never worry about what they think, they will start to respect you if you take charge and don't falter to there goofy boy needs.
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