Wow. Sounds like a pretty serious sentence.

Good thing is, 2 weeks goes by fairly quickly. I would suggest doing a lot of reading in your downtime.
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I can understand that you guys took on a bet and you lost. My wife and I make bets as well and, "If you can't do the time, don't do the crime."

Nevertheles, this seems a bit extreme. If your boyfriend cares about you, and you are feeling really embarrassed or degraded, he would tone it down a bit. If he doesn't, then I would wonder about how much he can empathize... or even how much he cares about you.

You might want to take this time to consider whether you want to with this guy.
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Rebel! Run away with his best friend!
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Holy crap...that does sound a bit on the extreme side...Princess Leia slave bikini?!?!...sorry, got distracted. Little bets, and even somewhat embarrasing things to me always seemed fine and harmless as long as it's just between the two of you. If you can't be stupid and goofy with your lover, who CAN you be stupid and goofy around? And, as long as it is in all good fun and not malicious, I even think it's a bit healthy. HOWEVER, there is a definate line not to cross when other people get involved...for instance, parading you around in the slave costume in front of his friends would probably be a bit over the top...

I would agree with doc...talk to him, make sure that he at least knows that your not really feeling the slave girl in front of friends thing. Who knows, maybe he will change his "demands" to be, "Act normal while they are here..."...which would probably be wise. Hell hath no fury and all that...

Seriously?!?! A princess Leia bikini?!?! hrm....
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The Leia bikini sounds fun and even "love cuffs" have almost gone mainstream these days (I've seen valentine pink ones in Big Lot). But, it sounds as if your boyfriend is significantly interested the the well known but definitely minority subculture of erotic submission and dominance. You'd better decide if you are too. There are probably lots of variations; but, I know displaying and being displayed are part and parcel of the concept in some peoples minds. Couples in such gear are sometimes seen out and about in the French Quarter on Mardi Gras. The couples with dominant women are more common, perhaps that's more politically correct somehow.

Apparently these costumes are pretty popular for Halloween and other costuming opportunities. Chaining you to a couch for any length of time is beyond a Halloween party though.
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http://costumes.lovetoknow.com/Princess_Leia_Gold_Bikini_Costume

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So long as he doesn't move into actual abuse -- emotional, physical or otherwise -- and you're not moved into a frame of mind that goes beyond 'playful discomfort,' it should be fine.

If he wants to invite his friends over to ogle you, and you're not okay with that, say you're not okay with it. If he says that you lost the bet and have to do what he says, remind him that just like bets between boyfriend and girlfriend in the first place, you're playing a game, and you always have the right to stop playing when the game turns harsh. If he can't accept that, then you should take off the chain, go put on sensible clothes, and walk out the door.

On the other hand, if he is responsive to when your discomfort goes out of the playful zone and into the "this is not cool" zone, and he can keep it on the "you lost a bet" playful level, then I'd say have fun with it. It sounds like that's what you want to do in the first place, so I'm not thinking it's time to sound the general alarm here.

Put bluntly, if at this core this is fun for you both, you should keep it up. If it stops being fun, tell him. If he dismisses your concerns, then stop playing.
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I agree with what the others have said. If your boyfriend really cares about how you feel, he won't put you through something that's really too far for you. If you can manage to convey to him that being paraded around like that IS too far, maybe he'll relent.

On the other hand, it may be that part of the reason he wanted you to be his slave-girl in the first place is so that he could show you off that way to his friends and get some masculine back-slapping. In that case it might be harder to get him to see things your way. If he's got his heart set on it, perhaps the two of you would be inclined to consider a compromise, in which he gets to show you off for a few minutes, then you can unchain and put on more normal clothing for the rest of their visit.

Regardless of what you choose, if you have access to the computer and worst comes to worst, you can always email or IM someone else to call the police and get you out of there. That could have somewhat long-standing consequences for your relationship—but then, so could his failure to see things your way.
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If you don't feel comfortable doing it, throw in the towel. There is nothing wrong with changing your mind, if he respects you he should understand.
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Two weeks seems extreme - and yourealize of course once his pals come over and see you in the Leia bikini, the y will be over every day!! *I* would!!

You've got to understand - every guy who's every seen Jedi wnats their girl to wear that outfit. I'm STILL trying to get my wife into one!!
But still, if you're uncomfortable then you should be honest with him. I would feel weird about my girl in a Leia bikini with my friends over. Drooling. Staring...
Sorry - I got distracted!
But seriously, tell him you're uncomfortable and work some other stuff out. You've been a good sport. I'd let you off. But save the bikini.

You may want to remember this next time HE looses a bet!!!
Best wishes!!
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Well, this should cure a gambling addiction. ;)

I probably would do the time out of spite and then dump him. That's girl revenge.
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