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rhonmark rhonmark
 
December 23, 2008 07:48 PM

I don't understand why most girls are attracted to the 'bad boy' type?

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clarusvisu... clarusvisu...
 
 December 23, 2008 08:05 PM
Short answer: Unpredictability is exciting.

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Long answer:

I found a very interesting analysis of this phenomenon in this article--I'll quote a few relevant excerpts:

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"A bad boy is attractive to a woman because he is exciting and unpredictable, and a wimp or a typical nice guy is perfect all the time, but is boring. So, the real question for you to examine is how can you be an exciting, passionate man without having to be a jerk in the process. It means make things exciting with a woman, not predictable.

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Have you ever had someone who consistently goes out of his or her way to make you feel special? Suppose that one morning, out of the blue, someone at your work place brought you a cup of excellent coffee when you first sat down at your desk. You'd probably feel pretty special, and you'd be happy to see that person later in the day. You would have associated seeing that person with the good feelings you got from the gift.

But now imagine if that person brought you coffee every single day, like clockwork, and never missed a day. At first you'd probably appreciate it, then you'd notice it less, then you'd hardly notice it at all. You might even start complaining when the coffee wasn't exactly the way you liked it, or get angry if he or she missed a day. You'd naturally go from being delighted by the constant gifts to seeing them as a regular part of life, or even as something you intrinsically deserve. This is a natural reaction to constant, unvarying reinforcement.

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The classic trap to watch out for is any reinforcing behavior that begins to look like a habit to you. Keep an eye open for things you always do to make her feel special. Don't always bring her gifts; don't always visit her work place once every three days. Vary your schedule of reinforcement, and you'll have a lot more success."

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More info can be seen at my source. The article advises 'nice guys' on minor changes they can make to their behavior so that their affections are fully appreciated.
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http://www.datingclass.com/seduction/bad-boys.shtml

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drmatt drmatt
 
December 23, 2008 07:54 PM
My first reaction... People desire the unattainable. "Bad boys" give the impression that they don't care about anything (those rebels!), so women might find that alluring.

The trouble occurs when they actually "get" the bad boy... then they become much less attractive....

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easyeboy easyeboy
 
December 23, 2008 07:55 PM
It's the same reason why guys like naughty girl types at times. They like what is a tease or hard to obtain. After a while they learn that he "bad boy" is not what they really are attracted to, and it they will soon figure out that they are not really going after the "bad boy," yet more so the challenge. People simply like the challenge, but one these girls grow up to become women, they are not all about the "bad boy," yet more about someone who will care for them and like them. By the way, this is not for all girls or guys.

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vandal913 vandal913
 
December 23, 2008 07:56 PM
The key word there is 'girls'. Don't worry about girls, they are called that for a reason; immaturity.

WOMEN actually realize what a good man is.

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rhonmark rhonmark
 
December 23, 2008 08:11 PM
You'd be surprised that even some 'mature women' are that way too. However I agree with @easyeboy that it's not true for all girls/boys. That's why I used the word 'most' in my question. I also agree with your answer. Thanks.

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kelly evan... kelly evan...
 
December 23, 2008 08:44 PM
I'd have to see a study on this to be convinced it was true statistically. First, "bad boy" would have to be defined. We could make a spectrum from a totally wet noodle brown noser kind of guy, on one end, to a criminal and murderer on the other end. I would say most women are attracted to a guy somewhere in between.

So towards the middle of the spectrum, a guy with some backbone, who can think outside the box a bit is obviously more attractive than someone who simply follows cultural mores.

On another note, the backbone guy is probably that way because he's got a bit more testosterone, so he's likely to show the girl a better time than the wet blanket in more ways than one.

Still, if you did a statistical study, people would probably match up according to types. So it may be a particular type of female you're referring to, that leans toward the wild side.
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sistersadi... sistersadi...
 
December 23, 2008 09:29 PM
There's the simple answer of "We always want what we can't have" and then there are the more layered in depth answers that we could spend weeks and weeks hashing out.

If I can find the study I read about the actual physiological response to this I will link it, but the gist of it was that the desire for the unattainable male was partially related to mating. Women can have the pick of the litter and are considerably more choosy in our mates (nothing against you guys, but biologically on a fundamental level this is true), when there is a man that isn't interested in suiting us it usually means (biologically) that they are probably a more self sufficient and well providing mate. Even though socially we know that to not always be the case. So by natural selection we are drawn to them.

Sociologically speaking, I think it's more of a case of we want the unattainable.

Each case is different though as are the individuals in question, and such a broad spectrum of possibilities will probably never net a wholly satisfying answer :(

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demanda demanda
 
December 24, 2008 07:24 AM
I don't think most girls like "bad boys." I really believe most girls are like me and like a combination of "nice guy" and "bad boy." I don't want someone who treats me like dirt, but I also don't want someone who kisses my ass. I want someone confident enough to disagree with and argue with me when needed. I've been with nice guys, and they were utterly boring. The interesting part to me is that I don't think these 'nice guys' were being themselves. They would cater to my every need and agree with everything I said because they thought that's what I wanted. They are usually of the people-pleaser variety.

I think most women want a man to show he can be in charge and manly when need be. Any impression of wimpiness in a man is a major turn off, and unfortunately, being overly nice falls into that category.

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aquarius24... aquarius24...
 
December 24, 2008 04:40 PM
I believe girls are attracted to bad boys because they are being rebellious towards their parents. This is why I was lol.

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bugsy bugsy
 
December 25, 2008 01:55 PM
It's really not the bad boy, but the attributes of a real man: masculinity, leadership, mental and physical power, protector, free thinker, independent. But this is something normal in a man! The problem is that your parents, your teachers, your religion and society in general trains you how to inhibit all these attributes and be a good subservient worker in the service of the community, instead of letting you develop your full potential.

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