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How do you think you would react if you found out your spouse was unfaithful to you?

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 September 16, 2009 03:40 PM
I will be very upset! Who wouldn't be!! It happened to me before and I was so upset, sad and dissapointed. I don't know how long you have been with the person but if you really love that person it will hurt a lot and feel betrayed. Like everyones says "love hurts". But keep in mind that you deserve better and to move on. Once a cheater will repeat that process all over again!! Cheer up and look foward to your bright future.


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September 16, 2009 04:39 PM
Thank you nice response but it is not me but someone I know and in this case they gave no attention of time to their spouse at all and was always going out friends when their spouse became unfaithful. But this is a normal situation. I know how I would feel but everyone has their own feelings, opinions and situations.

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September 14, 2009 05:44 PM
I'd be shocked and angry at first of course. I'll think about a couple of things before deciding for the next step.

- Will we break up or not?
- Is he sorry or not?
- Is he going to leave me for the other girl?

If he asked for a second chance, I might give him a second chance BUT of course it will never be the same again. When a crystal vase fell from the floor, it may not break but it will bear some scratches and would stay forever. It's the same for relationship when trust gets broken. It would be difficult to give back the same amount of trust you've given before.

If he said sorry and sounded sincere, I think I'd give him another chance, but as I said, it would be hard for me to trust him again.

If he'll leave me for the other girl. Okay. I cannot do anything about it even though I love him still. It's just that if someone doesn't like you, then fine. Don't push it. Though it hurts, you must move on... life goes on.

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drmatt drmatt
 
September 14, 2009 06:02 PM
I might feel very disappointed and angry.

I would be very disappointed that my spouse didn't feel safe enough to come to me FIRST before cheating on me. I would have hoped that my spouse and I would have agreed that we could talk about ANYTHING and made it safe to do so. I would feel sad that my spouse didn't come to me and told me something was wrong with our relationship and given me a chance to fix it.

I would wonder if our relationship would be salvageable and whether my spouse would want to work on the problem.

I would NOT... blame the third party. I would hold my blame for my spouse AND myself. My belief is that BOTH people in a relationship own a part of the problem. Although, in a cheating scenario, the cheater owns quite a big part, but I also wouldn't deny my own part in the problem...

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September 14, 2009 06:36 PM
I like your view about now holding the third party responsible and that both hold the same responsibility for problems that occur in a relationship. The lack of communication in a relationship is a sad thing as communication I feel holds things together. Thank you for your response you seem very sensible.

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drmatt drmatt
 
September 14, 2009 09:42 PM
Thanks! That's why they pay me the big money...

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psynopsis psynopsis
 
September 14, 2009 11:35 PM
I would ask for a divorce, no questions asked and (hopefully no children involved) leave and never see them again.

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September 15, 2009 04:10 AM
I just found out, and it is the worst stab in the heart that anyone can imagine. With it came the infamous denial which only validates the pain even more.

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September 15, 2009 07:14 PM
I am so sorry for your hurt/pain. You can always use Mahalo to vent by asking questions to make you feel better, answering questions mahalo is a nice place to be able to communicate with very special and understanding people they have been helpful with getting me over several humps. Just take a look at some of the funnies.

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