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M$1 February 06, 2009 05:23 AM

How can I make this girl like me?

I really like this girl (she's a few years younger than I am), and I want her to like me as well, but not in a way like "just friends," yet I want something more. I'm looking to get her to really like me, but having challenges. If you can help me, please let me know! Can anyone help get her on my good side?
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February 06, 2009 06:29 AM
You can't. Either she'll like you or she won't. Ask her out. NOW. Don't wait for the two of you to develop a closer friendship. You have plenty of friends. You don't need any more friends, you want a girlfriend.

If you go to friend-town with a girl you like, it will break your heart. She'll confide in you all her complaints about her jerk boyfriends. then one day, she'll bust out the: "Gee, I wish I could meet a guy as nice as you." DUH! At that point, she has met a guy as nice as you. Namely, you. But she's not interested because she values your friendship too much.

Date first. Fall in love second. Spend the rest of your lives becoming best friends. (Or, decide you were wrong about this one, dump her, then lather, rinse and repeat.)
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February 09, 2009 06:07 AM
Brilliant answer! If you only had the magic wand to make her like me.

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February 06, 2009 05:35 AM
The only thing I can really suggest at this point not knowing either of you is to find out her interests and see if the interest you. If they do then try and get her to see that they interest you. Other then that just be nice and don't bug her to much.

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February 06, 2009 05:37 AM
A risky question to ask because it crosses over from the professional questions to the personal questions. Why would you want the opinion of a stranger for a major life changing commitment?

These are impossible questions. If I had a "improbability hyperdrive" from Hitch Hikers guide to the Galaxy, I would say, "it will work because it is highly improbable. 2 power 20,000" ha ha. Good luck

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February 06, 2009 06:08 AM
While there are a bunch of cheesy things you could try, in the end it's important to be yourself. The success of the relationship hinges on two people liking each other for who they are, not what one wants the other to be. Sort of goes back to the old phrase that a woman marries hoping her husband will eventually change, while a man marries hoping his wife will never change. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then what is the point?

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February 06, 2009 06:09 AM
Ugh.. I hate it when people post just because they want points!

Since I do not know the two of you, I would first want to know, does she even know you exist? If not, get her to notice you. If she and you are friends, ask her to go out with you, on a date - just the two of you. And talk to her. Tell her that you really like her.

Sometimes a girl is really just waiting for you to make the move... make that move, be bold!

Good luck hun!

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February 06, 2009 06:47 AM
Unfortunately, this is the answer: buy "The Game" by Neil Strauss. Read it, and then follow his advice.

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February 06, 2009 08:11 AM
First don't act desperate. You can compete with the best of them. You need to watch for those moments when you can impress her. If she needs a door opened or her books fall be there to help her. Do not stalk her but if you are ready for the moment it will certainly come. Also dress cool don't dress like a dork. good luck and act like you own the place.
Second, don't just assume that a girl likes some other guys more because you think they are cooler. Girls all have different tastes. Some girls go for football stars, some girls go for guys on the debate team, some girls like the shy but nice guys. Simply be confident that you're a good guy and worth a girl's time. Then just talk to her. You don't have to ask her out, and the conversation shouldn't be about anything designed to impress her, just have a conversation, show some interest in her, and once you've talked a few times, judge how she reacts to you; if she still doesn't seem interested in talking and is somewhat cold, find another girl, this one's not biting. Even the best pickup artists cannot pick up every girl, it just depends if you are her type. If she seems to like talking to you, then take the next step and suggest meeting elsewhere to talk more, like dinner or coffee or the football game or something. Basically there is no way to MAKE a girl like you - all you can do is give her the chance to see the real you, and see if that's her type; if its not, then you find one who fits you better.

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February 06, 2009 01:04 PM
You can't make her like you. It's either there or it's not. If you guys are already in the "friend" zone I would say you will probably stay in that zone. Instead of trying to make her like you, try and find someone that you have that instant spark with. Can't rush love

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February 06, 2009 02:01 PM
I don't want to be her friend, I want something more. What can I do so that she will really like me!?

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February 06, 2009 01:17 PM
You can't *make* someone like you. All you can do is be yourself around them, confidently, and hope they are attracted to you. If they're not, well, that means they weren't the one for you after all. Be genuine, and don't try too hard. Subtly make your feelings known and see if they are reciprocated, and if not, it would be best to find someone else.

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February 06, 2009 03:56 PM
Just be yourself. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then she's not the girl for you anyway. I mean, you wouldn't want to spend the whole relationship trying to be someone you're not just to impress her, would you?

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