As a bloke who was in an almost mirror situation (ah, unrequited love) for a few years, I think I can easily vouch for the vast majority of the average male population when I say that this will ALWAYS happen. However, it depends on the attitude of the guy. I never said anything - who knows what might have happened, I might have made things better or worse - so I decided to stay as I was, and now I feel an extremely close emotional attachment to this other person but it's gone beyond simple infatuation.

I think if the person doesn't try to get you into bed when you're both drunk at some time (unless you give him all the signs back! which is VERY confusing to us poor blokes, please stop doing it ;) then I think you can probably assume that he will remain as close a friend as you could possibly have for a very long time.


But in short, for most men + women friendships, there'll always be an element of desire or lust lurking down in the subconscious. Where there's attraction that will never really go away, it's embedded too deep in our primordial psyche. It's what that becomes once you've known that person for a longer period of time, and that's almost entirely up to the character of the person who is having those feelings :)


Men are surprisingly complex in some respects and wonderfully, predictably simple in others. Be glad you're not one, I really confuse myself sometimes.
Source(s):
School Of Hard Knocks, University of Life (graduated with 2:1 in Life Sciences but was late to my graduation)

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