Holy Moly. You are in the dog house....

It doesn't matter who is right or wrong - she's upset and that is all that really matters.

She will get over this but you are going to have to work with her on this one.
She just lost her uncle that she adored and this picture, no matter the quality, was her tie to him.

You can help her by letting her know that you appreciate her feelings and would like to know if there was anything to do to make it up to her. If she says ( which she most probably will ) that there is Nothing that can be done - it was a one of a kind - then you have to figure something else out.

Let her know you care by possibly helping her frame a picture of her uncle and putting it up in the house somewhere. You can't replace the picture that was burned buy you can honor her uncles memory and help her get through this hard time.

The other thing is to be patient and count to 5 before you feel like jumping in and correcting her if she says something dumb.

Finally, don't mess around with her little treasures in the future...

Good Luck! It sounds like she could really use your strength right now.
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sporadically hormonal sylvia

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Sir B is just having fun with us. Check his profile.

Sir B, if you're in the doghouse, why not rush out of it and bite her on the ankle? Steal some sausages while you're at it. Likely the pain and humiliation will lead her to tell everyone you're deranged, and you can then milk it for all it's worth. Keep up the pretense, and all the visitors enquiring after your "unfortunate condition" will bring you bacon and steaks and tennis balls, or maybe fancy ties and computer peripherals to try and bring you out of it.
Source(s):
Faking Mental Disease for Fun and Profit, by Amanda Herforth Pilkington

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Two things... 1) You are BOTH right and both wrong. 2) Everyone has a "right" to feel whatever they feel (it's the behavior that might be inappropriate.)

Your wife has an absolute "right" to be angry at your behavior. If I were in her shoes, I would be furious. I've caught myself trying to make a "joke" and not having it taken right. I recognized my part of the problem: There are some things that only I think are funny.

Consider this an excellent time to learn how to communicate your feelings and how to repair your relationship.

Also, this is a great opportunity for you to explore what YOUR part of the problem is, what you're going to do about fixing yourself, and how to communicate that to your wife. I certainly see a lack of empathy on your part here. That behavior is NOT intimacy-making... it's certainly intimacy-breaking.
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Good rule of thumb (and comedy): It's only funny if everyone is laughing.
That was a poor choice in joke selection. With or without the dog house!
Cheers! And good luck!
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As a husband who has made poor joke selection as well...

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My dear, Imagine if someone takes your most precious thing with whom you were very much emotionally attached gets ruined by someone? She is very much right in her way because that picture was emotionally associated with her and emotional disturbance is a big reason for someone to go into Depression. Now, what is done can't be undone. Make sure that she pours out all of her anger to make herself feel better. Try to ask her family member's and that uncle's family to visit her because she will really feel better after meeting them. Also try to arrange that Uncle's real picture in that same frame from uncle's relatives. Once that is done, take her to dinner and fun places with let her watch good comedy shows and she will start feeling better emotionally.
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If she scolds you even with bad words, Please try to bear it or leave the premises instead of arguing, when her scolding gets out of control.
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My Prayers and best wishes for your relationship.
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