Q: Do you believe in love at first site?

A: Studies in psychology and human behavior have found that a women can usually tell within 2-3 minutes whether or not she would be able to spend the rest of her life with a guy, so if three minutes falls within the realm of "first site", then science says there is such a thing.

The same reseach reports that guys take longer. They'll start getting a sense after about 20-30 minutes of whether or not they click with another.

That correlates with another aspect about a subtle differences between rates of attraction between men and women identified by researchers, which is that women fall in love faster than men, but they will also fall *out* of love faster.

A guy might seem to drag his heals making up his mind, but once he does, he'll take a lot longer getting over being dumped than it takes a typical woman to get over being dumped by a guy.

Q: That true love never dies?

A: There's no scientific data on this, but there's tonnes of evidence from people's diaries and journals - and from my personal experience - that yes, there is such a thing, and it doesn't necessarily have to do with romantic/sexual falling-in-love attraction.

I've met people of both sexes with whom, rather quickly, some sort of bond developed, and we just naturally started dealing with issues and doing things together.

Sometimes major disagreements would happen, and sometimes those arguments and fights were so bad that we wouldn't talk for *years*, yet sometimes we'd meet again by chance or circumstance, and somehow, I don't know how or why, we'd forget about it and pick up from where we left off.

I think that's an incarnation of true love, and that it's not the same as romantic love, because sometimes it happens with people of the same gender.

When it *does* happen in combination with romantic true love-at-first-site, then that's when you've found the legendary (but not mythical) "Soul Mate".

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