I think romance is nothing that has to satisfy someone else's idea of romance - like when you're reading a romantic (or actually very kitchy) novel by a woman and try to apply the things you've just read to your own relationship. You should not try to think of "what can I possibly do/pretend to give the impression of me being romantic" but just look inside yourself and find out what one special person made you think that you couldn't possibly think by looking at another person - for example the way someone seems to be lost in thoughts sometimes and how much you love the impression of his or her face at that very moment. That you want to know what he or she might be thinking, etc. It can be everything that makes this person unique to you, that makes you want to protect that person or to touch him or her, even though he or she seems to be too precious to be touched. That's romance, because it comes from within, it's unique, it's personal and it's very fragile, so it might embarrass you in a nice way you miss afterwards.

I personally think romance is not about buying fancy dresses or picking someone up for a dinner, even though that can be both very romantic. I don't think romance is about candles or music, even though that can be romantic, too - if it comes from yourself and not from a random movie you've just watched. Get what I mean ?

What comes from my very self are love poems because I love poetry in general and because the words are just inside my head when I think of my special person. Like a haiku I wrote (it might seem simple and no perfect English, who cares ? I have some references there that only the both of us can get) : "Second row back seat / For a first-placed person, as / Decent as you are. "
If I were another person, I wouldn't write those poems or even read some famous poem to my love interest for poetry is always considered as romantic, but only if it's dedicated to a special person. I love poems by Shakespeare, but reading his words to someone I love is not the same as when I make up a poem on my own because it's my favourite way of impressing my special feelings. So you might consider poetry as romantic and want to be romantic by reading poems out to someone, but I would not do that if it's not something you would like even if noone else thought it's romantic or if it's something you express a general idea of romance with, but not the unique idea of yours or your own unique feelings towards somebody.

The best way to be romantic is to question yourself what unique feelings someone creates inside of you and trying to express that feelings in a way that fits yourself - it might be poetry, music, candles, presents, flowers, a picture, whatever - as long as it's not general, but personal.

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