Being able to defend yourself verbally requires the same thing being able to defend yourself physically does... PRACTICE and PREPARATION !!!!!
When the other person is talking listen closely to wha thy are saying, make mental notes of inconsistencies and errors but always keep listening. This will give you the ammunition that you need to win an argument. But you must be able to pull the trigger so to speak. That's where practice comes into play. Start by playing out encounters in your mind beforehand. YOU MUST WIN IN YOUR MIND IF YOU ARE GOING TO WIN FOR REAL. Go through these mock enconters several times each time giving your opponent different viable arguments and countering with your own. When you are ready have confidence. Many arguments hae been won with incorrect facts or reasoning because someone had the confidence to say what they felt wth this intangible weapon.
If I have one other piece of advice its this, DO NOT resort to insults or name calling. These thngs are the tools of weak people. It shows that your argument lacks logic and that you lack the ability to mount a defendable position. The occasional barb is ok as it can serve to disarm your opponent but ideally thy wont even realize you got them until your on to your next point.
If it helps practice with your friends, with the tv or in fornt of a mirror. Buck up soldier. YOU CAN DO IT!!!

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