Is it okay for people in committed relationships to go to bars without their partner and meet strangers of the gender they are attracted to?
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1) If the commitment to each other is to stay together in a loving relationship that is mutually exclusive then "dating" as above should be unacceptable.
2) If the commitment to each other is to stay together in a loving relationship that is not mutually exclusive then it should be fine & each partner involved should be able to do this as they please. Letting people they are dating know that they are in an open committed relationship. After all the person who gives the phone number may be under the mistaken impression he/she may be able to enter a committed relationship.
A huge part of being in a committed relationship is knowing what each partner wants and expects of the commitment. If I were in this situation with a significant other I would want to try to clarify the desired level of commitment.
If an agreement can not be reached it is time to end the commitment..
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I think no relationship will survive without trust. My husband actually works at a bar, and he gets given numbers regularly. (It's gotta be the viking hair lol) That doesn't bother me even if he does become friends with some of the women because I know he would never on his honor betray me.
However if your significant other is taking numbers, not letting these people know he/she is involved and/or is not being open about receiving the numbers in the first place, perhaps there is a loyalty issue there and you shouldn't be together in the first place. On the flip side if a partner cannot allow their mate to have friends of the opposite sex, something is also wrong.
So in short, is it okay to make friends of the opposite sex at a bar if you're involved? Yes.
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You're neglecting to mention the fact that one of the biggest cause of breakups is infidelity. Whether together for 20 years or together for 9 months this can always destroy a relationship. I'm sure there are statistics that show a high incidence of infidelity in bars; if this is where the "friend of the opposite sex" is met and visited, then why not throw in a few drinks and complete the setup for something to happen? Don't kid yourself and be honest here. You haven't really addressed the actual effect it has on the mate that is staying home, no matter how much trust is in the relationship. I have had fun in bars with my mate and other couples but in general it stresses a relationship when one partner goes alone.
It is better to assume that monogamy is expected until such time as a discussion has revealed some flexibility on the matter, but it is also unwise to assume that monogamy will be a feature of a committed relationship without that discussion.
Until a true agreement has been reached, and not assumed, each party remains free to proceed as they see fit, even if doing so is unwise.
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M$If she/he is satisfied with a relationship probably he wont look for another . If he/she looking for another then probably she is not satisfied .
so i see no wrong if she met someone better in the bar and moving with him .
Look at the picture bellow . do u think you mind if they both just met at the bar, became so much attached . they keep messaging 24X7 .... haha ... thats our mind, rotten . you accept just because you cant think them having sex .
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M$Monogamy is an interesting ideal; however, a roll in the hay with some fresh meat always serves to relieve a little stress.
What would be wrong would be if your partner knew that anything was going on and had a problem with it.
Other than that -- something extra on the side is a situation that's totally okay.
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@trojanquack . you should have asked a high standard question then . dont forget thought or question originated in your mind. some people are very liberal .you are liberal enough to ask and hez free enough to answer . what if you are living in a country like mine where even thinking of such situation would be considered SIN , people just think you are SATAN if you ask such question .as far as my experience i have seen those who are liberal in sex are more humanistic , emotional and well mannered .
I think you have low standards.
Good answer, but I have to chime in here, if you are in a monogamous relationship lower inhibitions shouldn't be a concern. It's one thing to find other people attractive another to want to go to an intimate level. I'd say if you have to have friends accompany you to a bar just to avoid cheating on your significant other something isn't right. Lowered inhibitions can't make you do anything somewhere inside of you, you didn't want to already. I never bought into the whole, "I cheated because I was drunk" excuse.