I'm trying to fit into a new school, I've tried talking to others but they look at me like I'm a weirdo? Help
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However, none of that is a priority. The reason why it isn't a priority is that you know how shallow and self-absorbed many in high school are. You've gotta make sure that no matter what, you're confident and happy with yourself, because this whole process of making friends takes time. And in this world of myspace and facebook and other ways of people gloating over their own profile and being kings of their little world, reaching out to your might not happen.
The biggest problem with school nowadays is that we don't give you the knowledge you need to grow. We give you stuff that might make you money, like math or accounting, or develop scholarly skills. Being a bit "emo" and getting into poetry and weird music isn't the worst thing: people do it because there's such an utter lack of options.
My own, specific advice: pick a subject you want to be expert in just for the heck of it, just for the love of learning, and start making that a priority. The reason is this - if no one befriends you, you need to feel like you didn't waste this time worrying about them. I realize that's very cynical of me, but I've seen this happen in high school and college. People are amazingly cruel. Below I'm going to give you links to things I think can help you get started on being an expert in school. And obviously, I think the more knowledge you have, the more people should respect you, and the more you'll be able to help them.
Fingers are crossed for you. High school is rough. People taking each other for granted is just awful.
Math - the way high school teaches math is just awful. A few things that might help you get a grip on the deeper issues. Ian Stewart's "Nature's Numbers" and John Derbyshire's "Prime Obsession" tackle mathematics in different ways, and the books are available at any B & N or Borders. Two sites I like recommending to people for learning more about math:
- Peter Suber on Set Theory (this is actually really fun, about our intuitive notions of infinity): http://www.earlham.edu/~peters/writing/infapp.htm
- the nytimes has a math blog, and it's beautiful: http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/02/21/division-and-its-discontent...
English: the more poetry you read, the better. That stuff will stay with you, and it is no coincidence that poets had trouble fitting in -
- Shakespeare, Sonnet 73 (or: a method for reading poetry) - http://www.ashokkarra.com/2007/05/that-time-of-year-indeed-shakespeares-son...
- Dickinson, "If I can stop one heart from breaking" (she had trouble fitting in, too) - http://www.ashokkarra.com/2006/12/if-i-can-stop-one-heart-from-breaking-emi...
There's a ton more out there on the web about science, philosophy, etc. The important thing is to know: you're not alone, and people care that you learn. Reach out to the latter, and high school won't seem cold, but rather a place missing out on you.
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M$2. Have patience. Friendships do not occur immediately, being too overbearing and trying to force the issue is a turn-off for a lot of people. Join the school clubs that you are actually interested in (not the ones that just the popular, clique-y students do). There you will find the students that are interested in the same things you are and those will make the best friends.
Be yourself. If you try to be something you are not, people might see through that and lose respect for you, and more importantly you will not be happy with yourself.
Don't give up. High school is NOT the rest of your life. As people mature (usually after high school) they are less likely to look at people "like I'm a wierdo."
Concentrate on getting into college. My closest freinds in life I met after graduating high school.
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Just have some patience.
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This is what I would recommend. I met my best friends through classes and Girl Scouts at your age, I didn't just sit down with someone at lunch and immediately become friends with them. Some people can do that, and I envy them, but we're obviously not those people! I worked alongside them doing projects or crafts until spontaneous conversation occurred, and invitations were exchanged.
Source: Moved around every 2-3 years my whole life.
