I'm torn. Some of my best support and my support system is online - I run a writers forum, and on that forum, I have friends who love and care about me, and I'd want them to know what was going on.

At the same time, I'm not sure I would be able to even function well enough to get online and do anything. Though I do think I would ask someone else to let people on the board know what was going on.

But people grieve in different ways. There's an old school of thought that says men don't deal with their emotions as outwardly as women (and while this is stereotypical, it is often true too), so maybe for this father, doing a memorial to his daughter was the only way he could handle the pain, and perhaps a part of him was reaching out for comfort and support from his online support system.

I get that. I probably could and would do that myself... eventually.

But it definitely wouldn't be within hours or within days - probably not even within weeks.

There's on exception to this though. If my child had been murdered and there was no leads, no suspect, and we were trying to find the person who did it - then I might be able to muster enough to do something like this to try to help find the killer, especially if I was prompted by police to do so. I'd owe that much to my child.

What a sad decision that would be to have to make though. My heart goes out to this man.

I would like to think that he sat down at the computer. Perhaps the computer was on facebook and his love and memories flooded out into a heartfelt loving tribute to his daughter.
Writing is so cathartic and just because he did it that soon means to me he had nothing else to do but to feel and think about his daughter. What a loving tribute to her. Perhaps he realized how much her Facebook friends meant to her.

I personally can not think of anything wrong with what he did as he only wrote from his heart during a time when he could do no more.

I wouldn't be functioning- let alone on Facebook at all. That said, a friend of my daughter's died suddenly a few weeks ago, and the way all of her old high school classmates found out was through Facebook....so I might ask a friend to post a message on Facebook, the same way I'd have someone put an obituary in the newspaper.

No, I wouldn't post it on Facebook. I wouldn't be able to see straight nor would I be thinking of Facebook or my computer. People handle things, grieve and cope in different ways. I can't ever fault anyone for their actions in a situation like this one nor would I question it.

I would desperately need the people around me. The ones in person that can cry with me and hold me and remember the person that is gone...with me. Otherwise I don't know what I would do. Online relationships aren't as real to me, I'm not sure if I'd ever share such a thing online.