I don't think it would take me a whole year to find out something like that about someone if I am dating them.

First, let me say - if I were to find out that he was a carpet cleaner, I would demand that he clean my carpet like a professional would do it. If he were an auto mechanic, I would demand that he fix my auto so that it would work smoothly.

Whatever the prior profession, I would demand a demonstration. Other than that, it really is none of my business.

I would not do anything other than what should have already been done. Get an STD test.

Did he lie to you and say that he has never worked in the adult entertainment field? If not, oh well.

Always remember rule number one when you meet someone new.

RULE NUMBER 1: ask ????? and then ask some more. After all of the asking is over - do your homework.

I agree with @necessaryinfo. In my case, I would demand he brought all the films he had starred in, or demand a demonstration. LOL. I think I'll find this extremely funny and laugh my ass off and hope it doesn't offend him. Then if he's handsome and sexy, (not every guy who work in the industry is handsome and sexy, don't ask how I know) I'll think of how lucky I am that I got a guy that's sexy enough to star in adult film.

well, hard as it is I'd have to walk away from the relationship. It would be way to much for me to bear knowing he has sex for money. Yes i know we all need money to live on, but there are much better ways to earn money. I know I am old fashioned and I am called prude by some people but that's me and I do not think I will ever change,

I suppose you really should figure out why it took so long for you to find out. It does take a long time to really get to know a person, but a year seems a long time for something like this. Is this something he is ashamed of or proud of? If he is ashamed of this, I could understand why it took so long for it to come up. We all have things that are difficult to talk about and it takes a lot of trust to finally bring the topic up. If this is something he is proud of, well why did it take so long for you to hear about it?

Is this the kind of thing that would bother you to know about them? If it bothers either party, then I think you really should sit down and discuss it more. If it doesn't bother him, how do you feel about it? Are you curious about what he did? If so, see if you can watch one of his movies together. Are you ashamed of what he did? Then talk about it, try to be open minded, and if you really care for him try not to let this new knowledge overshadow how you feel about him. Remember that this is his past and I'm sure he had his reasons. I'm sure you have things from your past you may regret doing.

This may sound strange, but can you both be proud of what he did? Working in the adult entrainment industry is very demanding and sex, especially pornography, is still a very taboo topic to many people. It isn't easy to go against what many people believe. I have always tried to be open minded and it may be this was a very difficult period in his life.

Also, I do agree with the others about STD and AIDS testing, but it should be for both of you. While it is required that people be tested before they film in this industry, sometimes things slip through the cracks so I really feel this is important, if only for the piece of mind it would give you.

We all have our skeletons in our closets. Some of them are harmless. Some are not. When we are dating someone, we are getting to know them. This can take weeks, months or years. Finding out about a prior profession, even those that are risque, is part of getting to know the person they are now. I see no harm, if the past is such where no one was harmed. It may not be a big enough part of his life, to have shared it on the 1st or 2nd date. Or it may have been a regrettable experience he was trying to forget.
If the past began to paint a demoralizing and unappealing picture of the person you are dating, perhaps now would be good time to find out, before any commitments are made.

First, I would get tested for STDs. If everything was all clear, I'd probably laugh. It wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker for me because I've made mistakes and poor choices my past, as well, although admittedly nothing THAT major. For me to continue a relationship with him, I'd have to be completely sure he was out of that business for good. And hope that he did not use his real name in the movies.

Well, depends. If that part of his life is definitively behind him, then I would do nothing and continue the relationship as it was. Depending on how many women he was intimate with, however, I may need additional reassurance that he is still in good health (i.e. HIV test and testing for other STDs) and take extra precautions. If he only participated in one or two films, I would probably not have a problem with it as compared to him being a popular star in the adult movie scene (which would then also suggest he had numerous partners and could possibly put my health at increased risk). Overall, however, I think his former job explorations are in the past and happened at a time during which he was not actively involved with me. It may even be somewhat exciting to date a man with enhanced sexual skills that allowed him to star in adult movies. I may just have to ask him to demonstrate these sought after skills to me at some point.