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If you knew you didn't have long to live and you began making arrangements. What is the one song you choose to be played at your funeral

Yes I know this a morbid question to say the least. My mother has mentioned to my sister and I a few times over the years the song she would like to have us play when that time comes. This prompted me to think if this thought has crossed the minds of other people. Let me know what your thoughts are on this subject.
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keepontryin | 1 year, 10 months ago
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While you are correct that this is a morbid question, it is also useful. My Dad passed away a few years ago, and over the years he had told us many time what songs he wanted played at his funeral. It was one less thing to worry about, we knew exactly what the music would be, and we knew he would have approved of it.

on the other hand, I have told my family over and over exactly what song I want played, and I am just as certain they will NOT be playing it as I am that I will certainly die one day.

If I Ever Leave This World Alive by Flogging Molly. Since the first time I head it, I KNEW it would be perfect at my funeral. Now I have to figure out how to trick them into playing it. Hmmmmm.
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gno | 1 year, 10 months ago Report

LOVE IT, keepontryin! This is a great song, and a perfect choice.

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keepontryin | 1 year, 10 months ago Report

good news! I pled my case once again, and my wife said that we could play it at a memorial service in the funeral home, or as background for one of those video memorials dueing visitation, just not a church because it's a pub song. I think that's a good compromise.

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gno | 1 year, 10 months ago
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Oh, I already have this answer. In fact, my husband has been thoroughly instructed on this matter, as has my mom. I want my wishes carried out.

In an odd wink to a well-known movie, I want my funeral to be held in a church with loads of stained glass (which is actually a very ironic choice as a send-off for me), and at my funeral I would like an organist to play the Rolling Stones hit, "You Can't Always Get What You Want".

I don't think my husband took me very seriously at first, since he then asked if that could be followed by a live organ rendition of "Inna Godda Davida". But I assured him that really is what I want. I've tried to live my life humorously and with a touch of the odd and the absurd, and that's the way I want to go out. I hope it'll put a tiny smile on some faces at my funeral.

And yes, I am cool with an Iron Butterfly follow-up.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wxkdmL3iMCY

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victoria_reid | 1 year, 10 months ago
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Well, here's an answer that may elicit some negative responses, but it's the truth. I would certainly want Oingo Boingo's "Dead Man's Party" top of the list at my funeral. It's one of my all-time favorites and I feel it's appropriate, but only because of my slightly twisted sense what's funny. My son would probably be put in charge of the other choices, and I would trust his judgment because he and I are both musicians and the two of us share the same wicked sense of humor.

So that's the "...one song..." I would make sure was on the list. Now, let's talk about the reception after the funeral! I think a wake would be appropriate. Along with a lot of great food and booze, I'll add a few more songs to my list - some of my other favorites from over the years. I know I had to pick only one song for the funeral, and I did that. Now the play list for the party:

"The Lion Sleeps Tonight" - The Tokens
"Young Americans" - David Bowie
"Kid Charlemagne" - Steely Dan
"Christmas Song" (Chestnuts, etc.) - Nat King Cole

For music genre, a lot of Cajun Zydeco, please. Actually a Zydeco band would be just the thing for dancing. This is gonna be a good party - too bad I can't participate a little more...um...in person!
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trmbngrl | 1 year, 10 months ago
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Oh, I've definitely thought about this. I have always had trouble deciding between two songs, if I had to pick only one I would want at my funeral. The first I heard in a band I was in, actually. The song, "O Magnum Mysterium" by Morten Lauridsen, is written for voices, but my old youth wind ensemble played an arrangement of it and it was beautiful. Definitely not a funeral mass tone, but I think it'd be appropriate, somehow. The lyrics are as follows and I'll place the video below:

--quote--

O great mystery
and wondrous sacrament,
that animals should see the newborn Lord
lying in their manger.

Blessed is the Virgin whose womb was worthy
to bear the Lord Jesus Christ. Alleluia!

--end quote--

(I have yet to find a good vocal recording of this song, so I'll provide a brass choir version. That's the sound I'd probably want at my funeral anyways.)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRMi1JOuaMU&feature=related

The second song that comes to mind is actually a short movement of a Symphony of variations. The movement I would want played would be 'Nimrod' from Elgar's "Enigma Variations." I played this one too, once, in orchestra and fell in love with it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUgoBb8m1eE

So there you have it. It may sound like I already have my funeral planned out, but I of course hope that doesn't come anytime soon! Thanks for the great question!
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shewolfsilver | 1 year, 10 months ago
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This is a very interesting question. When my mother passed away from cancer I was left the daunting task of choosing music for her funeral. I chose mostly religious bible hymns because she liked them and was religious to a point. There was one song I chose it was called “Holes in the Floor of Heaven” It was a combination of country music which she liked and religious.

I don’t plan to burden my family with having to come up with the details I have already told them what I want and how I want to be remembered. Since I’m not really religious I want to be remembered with a roast type party. Where everyone has a good time and regales the other guest with stories of my antics. LOL The one song that must be played is by Joe Diffie and is called Prop Me up Beside the Jukebox (If I Die).
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sarahclark | 1 year, 10 months ago
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I joke about this question all the time. When I took a communications class in college, I had to write a program for my own funeral, but there were no restrictions on what I could do. Celebrity speakers were encouraged. I had two songs I wanted played: Claude Bolling’s “Tendre,” a favorite for my husband and me, and Weird Al Yankovic’s “Pancreas.”

“Tendre” makes sense, mainly because I hear the music of life in it, and because it speaks so much to me and to the relationship I have with my fellow jazz lover of a husband. It’s a special song for us, so I’d love to have it played.

I think “Pancreas” is more about my silly sense of humor and my love of all things Weird Al. I actually don’t plan to have a real funeral because I want to donate all my salvageable organs and then donate the rest of my body to a medical school. I figure “Pancreas” is a fitting song for someone whose pancreas will either save another human’s life or be chopped up so doctors and nurses can learn to save others.
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ginamichellesattic | 1 year, 10 months ago
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If I were about to die and I had to choose my own song for my funeral, I would choose "In the Arms of the Angel" to be played. I love her voice and the music is so calming. Sarah McLachlan has the prettiest voice I have ever heard. If I was rich and could leave enough money to have her come to my funeral and sing in person, I would.

I have said recently, I LOVE my life and if I was to die tomorrow I would not want my family to be stuck grieving. I would want them to remember all of our smiles and happy times and move forward with their life with a smile. I want them to be happy and I am so proud of my two children. My kids have amazing hearts. I want them to share that with their future spouse and children.
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stacy1172 | 1 year, 10 months ago
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I have thought of this before. Although, I have never talked to my family about it. I have a major fear that I will die before my kids grow up. If it happened I would want them to know that as long as they remember me and the good memories that we have made together, then I will always be with them. That's hard to do right after someone passes away because the pain of the loss is so strong. But as time passes I truly hope that when they would think of me it would be thoughts about all the fun times that we have had together.

The younger they are, the harder this will be because they may not remember a lot. That would be so hard for a young child not to be able to remember their mother. So hopefully I stick around long enough for them to all three have plenty of good memories of our time together. I want Sarah McLachlan - ''I Will Remember You'' played at my funeral.
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