2 years, 5 months ago
about Dr. Phil Divorce
I feel like I can't leave my husband because HE loves me too much, as his first love ever. How do I get past the fear of devastating him?
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M$1 Answer
You have to realize that it isn't worth spending your entire life with someone who doesn't make you happy. Your husband probably WILL be devastated when you leave him, but he WILL move on eventually. In the long run you will both be a lot happier if you get it over with.
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M$
I don't know the particular reasons this woman wants to leave her husband, but may I point out that we can't depend on others to make us happy.
I know of too many marriages that ended just because one or both partners "isn't happy." I believe that people who are unhappily married will also be unhappily divorced; it just opens up a whole new set of problems. And people who are unhappily single will also be unhappily married.
We have to find our own happiness, and it's an attitude that comes from within. We should search for our own happiness within the boundaries of our commitments. I'm a firm believer in the sanctitiy of marriage and believe that divorce should never be taken lightly.
I would never advocate that a woman who is abused or whose husband repeatedly cheats on her stay married to such a man, but most other issues can be worked out when both partners are willing to do so.