She finds a guy who finds this an outstanding quality as I did with my intelligent wife.

The brainy girl just needs to be herself and someday just the guy who likes this brainy girl will come along. (Even brainy girls need to shower, wash and comb their hair, and use antiperspirant daily, though. I'm just sayin!)

Jaws and his brainy girlfriend in the James Bond movie Moonraker

Actually, brainy girls often attract guys except those who don't take care of their hygiene. If I were a guy, I wouldn't be attracted to that kind of brainy girl, lol. But, they say, when everyone's in love, including brainy girls, they would be busy caring for themselves because they want to impress somebody.

She finds a brainy boy. :)

Love is more about compatibility than effort. If you have a real connection with some one no action or game plan is going to change that. Getting the right guy, just requires being yourself.

Honestly, I think it depends on the guy. I'm a brainy gal and love my brainy guy. I had close friendships and brother/sister type relationships with lots of great guys who weren't threatened by me because I wasn't even an option because they only dated tall, chesty blonds. I've had other guys terribly threatened by my brains who wanted nothing to do with me because of their own insecurities. If those are the guys you're going for, you're better off without them. I mean, there's room for close friendships, but if you pine for someone who isn't interested, you're the only one who's going to be hurt. As for the other type, who wants someone who is afraid of a smart woman?

My best suggestion is to be happy with who you are and you will attract the guy who will be happy with you. When I stopped pining and playing the unrequited love game with guys who were never going to be interested and decided I was just happy the way I was, I ended up having to turn guys down. I found my soulmate, a man who is so smart I could never, ever intimidate him. :)