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How do you tell someone you care about, who is totally in love with you, they are not the one for you, & still keep up the friendship?

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jillianejohnson | 2 years, 2 months ago
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Wow, heavy question. I would say just sit down with the person and explain your feelings as thorough as possible. If you're friends and have a level of understanding, then there should be a way for the other party to see where you're coming from and respect your decision. I would stay away from buttering the person up. You basically build them up to let them fall back down. No one ever wants that. Just stick to a simple conversation and breathe easy. Good luck!

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jillianejohnson | 2 years, 2 months ago Report

I'm so glad I could help. I wish you the best, no matter what happens!

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manywaters1 | 2 years, 2 months ago Report

Thank you, I sat down & explained the situation , I think I have to give it time, he was hurt, however he did say he want's a little time to work things out alone. I explained to him that I cared for him very much as a friend & I hope we could continue being in each others lives, I don't have a significant other & am not looking for one, so I told him I make a better friend than a mate, this way we would always be in each others lives. we will see how it goes.
your input has helped a lot...
Love to you my friend...
"Many Waters"

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meyermv | 2 years, 2 months ago
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I don't think there is a way to maintain friendship. Someone who is in love, can't just turn off that feeling. It can't be only friendship to them, there will always be a longing.
I lost a really good friend because of this. At one point and time, he had a girlfriend, so I thought he was over me. He found out I was engaged, and took my phone number off his phone. I understand why he did it, and I didn't persue friendship with him anymore, though it hurt me. Good friends are SOOOO hard to come by, and hurts SOOOO much to lose. :(
Awww, now I'm sad!

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jillianejohnson | 2 years, 2 months ago Report

Aww don't be sad.
That's true too. Maybe I'm just a dreamer, hoping that everyone can be happy in every situation. Of course that's not always the case. Maybe the friendship can stay and maybe not. It's ultimately up to the person with the strong feelings.

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manywaters1 | 2 years, 2 months ago Report

I have to admit, I can handle someone dear to me passing away & never seeing them again, it is a very tough thing to do, release them, however I find it harder to say good bye to someone you care about who you may see again, worse....
I think Jillane has a good perspective...
Love & Light to us all on our Journeys...
Thank You soo much for your answer, you are very kind....
"Many Waters"

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