it's hard to know without knowing much about your or the guy. I have found though that most times there is a tug-o-war theme to a relationship. what i mean is that if you pull away, he should come after you and if he pulls away you should come after him. for instance, if something upsets you, he should make the effort to understand what it is that upsets you and try to make amends. if he wants to do something and you truly are not interested but this disagreement is causing serious rift in your connection, then most times if you love each other, you would try to come to a mutual compromise. i've known people who are naturally polite and always open doors, introduce you to the people around them but weren't there emotionally. i have known people who truly loved me but were so scatter brained that they never came through on anything they said they would do for me. i have known people who loved me because they got used to me but found my sole purpose in their life was as a bragging right (i'm educated, have traveled the world, etc.) only you will know what you will accept and wont in a relationship but try not to compromise your standards. you built them to where they are for a reason (most likely based on past relationships and where they ended up)

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If he has no time for you - he'd rather be doing anything than be with you.

If you can't tell each other everything and be respected for it - he's telling someone else.

If he talks sh!t about others when they're not around - he's talking sh!t about you when you're not there too.

If he lies to people in front of you - he's lying to you when it's just you.

If he just can't seem to make up his mind about you - then he's playing the field and is likely playing it with lots of girls.

If you find yourself justifying his actions without really knowing his thoughts or feelings on the subject - he's seriously not into you and you're just prolonging the pain.

And finally, if you have to ask - you already know he's not into you. It's time to move on.

People make time for things they really want to do and people they really want to be with. Communication is key in any relationship, without it the relationship will die fast. The way a person treats their family and friends is a good sign how they'll treat you too. Many times people play the victim when a past relationship doesn't work out. You may find that the other side to that story doesn't paint them in such a forgiving light. It takes two to be in a relationship. It takes two to ruin it.

Best time to leave is when you know the score and things are not so bad. Don't wait for things to be (or get) bad before deciding to go. It may not make sense to leave if you're having a good day, but you'll be able to communicate your choice better, you'll be in control of the situation and it puts less pressure on him to pretend to be different just because you're "crying again".

If he gets all defensive and starts giving you all the attention you want, I highly recommending NOT falling for that game. Because as soon as he's sure you're not leaving, he'll go right back to how he was now that he's in control again.

NOTE: That last part is only true if you've made conscious efforts to have serious conversations with him before and failed. Players use a woman's needs to manipulate them but only playing along when they risk losing you. It's an evil game that women allow them to succeed at. Don't fall for it. Get out while you're in control and never look back.

How to tell if a guy is not serious in a relationship this is very easy for me to answer due to past experience. If a guy isnt serious then he will not call/text/im you much, he wont be sweet to you around his friends. Will want to keep it a secret about you 2 dating. And he will be like were dating no were not blah blah.

If my guy introduces me to his friend and parents, he is kind of serious. If he does not intoduces me to them, he is not really serious or into the relationship.

If my guy wants that we spend vacation and holidays together, he is serious. If he doesn't make any special plans for the Holidays, he is playing around.

If my guy always says that I'm his girlfriend, when he introduces me to his friends, he is serious about our relationship. If he just introduces me using only my name, he is not serious.

The answer to this is easy; simple respect. Does he respect you? Does he call when he says he is going to call? Does he stop by when he says he will? Is he on time? Does he listen when you speak? Does he remember what you say minutes, hours, or days down the line? Does he seem truly interested in what you have to say? Does he respect your wishes and your boundaries?

Basically, these are all indicators of simple respect, of how important you are to him and his life. If you are truly important to him, he will make sure he does all of the above and then some. To put it in perspective, if something is truly important to you, you are going to make sure you show up and participate to the best of your ability, right? You can bet he will, too.