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Is it wrong to judge a person I just met based upon a weak handshake?

Is it wrong to judge a person I just met based upon a weak handshake?
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coltech88 coltech88
 
 August 20, 2009 12:15 AM
In most countries, giving firm handshake is considered rude. A limp handshake is the norm. (For instance in Latin America) People in some countries do not believe in body contact when greeting. Perhaps that person is from a country or culture for which a firm handshake is not a custom. We do live in a society that is quite multicultural.

I think you should go beyond the judgment based on this one criteria and look at the whole person.

It is easy to jump to first conclusions. Just be aware that they are only first impressions.

Attached is a link on social customs abroad.
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http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/116369/what_you_need_to_know_about...



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August 20, 2009 02:10 PM
I would say this deserves a nomination for Answer of the Day. Great job.

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trinifigue... trinifigue...
 
August 19, 2009 10:41 PM
Yes, it is wrong to judge a person on a weak handshake. First, talk to the person. Find out what he believes in and what he has done. Then judge the person.

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suzd688 suzd688
 
August 19, 2009 10:59 PM
Yes definitely! What is important about a person is not how they look or if they have a weak handshake. What is important is what the person is like on the inside.

It is not a good thing to judge someone until you have gotten to know them. Talk to the person, spend some time with them, get to really know them beyond first impressions. Then make your judgment based on all the facts.

In other words "Never judge a book by it cover" or in this case "handshake"!

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matt1 matt1
 
August 19, 2009 11:21 PM
It would be wrong to judge someone based on their handshake, but many people do. When you first meet someone, shaking their hand is almost always the first thing you do. At that point, that's all you have to judge them by besides their looks and attire. It is important to have a good, firm handshake, but never judge someone because their handshake is lacking.

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soundboy soundboy
 
August 19, 2009 11:55 PM
Yes there is so much more to a person beyond a handshake. The only time I judge a person by a hand shake is if they squeeze my hand really hard. I don't like when people do that. I don't think there is anything wrong with a weak handshake.

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portsidetw... portsidetw...
 
August 19, 2009 11:58 PM
How would you judge him if he had crushed your hand? Over compensating, hot head, jack ass? not all handshakes work out right, having large hands myself I find that I end up engulfing the other persons hand, and having a muscular build I always try to be a little more gentle in my approach to a handshake :)

just shake in a way that feels natural, if you or the recipient start reading into it too much then there is something wrong somewhere, after all it is just a greeting.

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canadamom canadamom
 
August 20, 2009 01:35 PM
I had shoulder surgery but it is invisible to the normal eyesight.
So I NEVER will be able to give a firm handshake. Please do not judge me as such.

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