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sunny1981 sunny1981
 
M$1 April 12, 2009 03:52 AM

When I ask a girl out, she says she's seeing somebody else, but she is flattered?

I liked a girl she works in a store. The moment i saw here i felt she is the one for me. I started a casual relationship with her. And one day i asked her out. She said she is seeing some body and she is flattered by me.

Is she trying to be polite?
Is she really seeing somebody?
Or Is she expecting a different approach from me?
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morriss003 morriss003
 
 April 12, 2009 04:38 AM
My guess is that this was an honest answer. A girl, like that, is unlikely not to be seeing someone. Think of what she could have said,
"You have got to be joking." Not very nice.
"You are not my type." Honest, but still not nice.
Make up your own scenario.
In college, I once asked a girl for a date. She smile and said that, although she was flattered, she was living with a guy, and she didn't think that it was right to go out with someone else. I knew the guy she mentioned. A real decent fellow.
Once a girl asked me out on a date. I said that I was very flattered, (I was) but that I was in a serious relationship, (I was) and so I had to decline.
I think that you met a very nice girl.
Stick around. You never know, the guy might break up with her, or she might break up with him, or he might get transferred to another state.
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demanda demanda
 
April 12, 2009 06:21 AM
I definitely don't think she is "expecting a different approach" from you. She has given you her answer, and it should be respected. Maybe she is seeing someone, maybe she is not, but that's not important. What is important is that she let you know she wasn't interested in you, and you should be thankful she did that in a nice way. Be nice to her, but don't ask her out again unless she informs you that she is now single. You made your feelings known, now the ball is in her court.

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sicokidz sicokidz
 
April 12, 2009 12:35 PM
Hi

Girls are always not straight forward. Look for more expression from her. Check out if she is really intended to be on your side or is there some sort of problem from her side that hides her emotions from showing out to you.

Also sometimes its really hard to get information from her at the beginning of an relationship... stay continued relationship stay close and there will be one time when she will say the truth. Try to be good as much as possible.. try to be more polite, try to be more closer to her. Make sure that you are the one that is always for her.

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peror peror
 
April 12, 2009 02:03 PM
Just give her some time, but still send her gifts and show her you care about her.Its that easy guy

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dudemanguy dudemanguy
 
April 12, 2009 06:40 PM
Some of these other answers seem a little stalker-ish.

Just leave it alone; if you can find feelings for a check out girl, you are bound to find someone else that interests you, too. The trick is to find someone who is also interested. Even if this girl flirts with you here and there, that 1) doesn't necessarily mean she is interested 2) doesn't mean that you are 'holding your place' for when/if she breaks up with this other guy.

Don't send her gifts or write poems or other potential restraining order evidence, girls don't actually like strangers who do that. Give it time (not necessarily with her) and you'll, hopefully, find 'the one' for you.
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brandycuba brandycuba
 
April 13, 2009 12:49 AM
From a woman, if I tell a guy that I am seeing someone else, it is for one of 2 reasons. I am not interested or I am head over heals for the guy I am with. If she was interested in you, she would have let you know, by saying something like, if this doesn't work out, I will keep you in mind... She is not interested. She may want to be your friend, but to be honest, you should move on. There is no point in wasting your time waiting on someone any way. Find someone who will make you happy. There are a ton of clerks out there. :-) and whatever you do, do not send her gifts. That is weird and will only scare her. Trust me.
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