Sounds like you have alot of regrets.

Is this a wedding anniversary? Why does he live at home if you are married?

IMO,I think that you may want to really reconcider the whole relationship. Please do not bring any children into the situation. First things first.
It sounds like he most deff will hold you back.I know love is a powerful thing and people will do anything for love. Don't ruin your life.If you feel he will not be a worthy mate than you may want to split up.

Heartbreak and mistakes are 2 different situations. Who will be more heartbroken you or him? Sounds like you may feel relieved if you were to split up.You are a beautiful girl,Don't underestimate yourself.
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You gave the relationship a year and it didn't work. It doesn't matter what the reason was, you were clearly unsatisfied. There is no wrong in that. In fact I consider breaking a relationship you are unhappy in off as a mercy not a cruelty as to allow the relationship to continue is not fair to the other party. Though you never say exactly what you did I'm assuming you broke it off.

The confusing aspect is the heart break. If you care so much that it caused you pain perhaps you did call it quits to early. Almost all of the issues you said you had with the relationship could be addressed.

I'd have myself a good hot cup of booze infused cocoa, cozy up and maybe write a bit in a journal to yourself. Get your thoughts and feelings out on paper so they are easier to sort out. Just relax, life rolls on. :)
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I think I can shed some light from a mans perspective.

It sounds to me like you made the right decision. This seems like the kind of relationship where both people involved need to figure themselves out before moving forward in any relationship.

I am glad he is trying to better himself, getting his GED and getting a job may help him get his life in order. Losing you may help motivate him to elevate himself to a point where he can not only take care of himself but also the people important to him.

For you I think the fact that you were considering the future with him as a factor for breaking up is a very positive point. It shows number one that you care about him. Thinking of a future together shows volumes of how deeply. The thing about a struggling (monitary or otherwise) relationship is that it usually breeds resentment and that quickly saps the strength out of the strongest feelings of love.

The thing about love is, you should be able love fiercely and with out shame no matter what others think. People will judge you no matter what you do or who you marry or how much money you have. It's the nature of the human beast. The important thing is to be able to accept that reguardless of the opinions of others you feeling is pure. Thats one thing I think you can work on.

As far as coping goes. I can offer no better advice than what the wise people before me have. Just know that in time it will get easier and easier to get trough each day with out tears, and no matter what you'll get through this.
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You did what was best for your future. More young women should be so wise!
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um, you should start knitting or crocheting it's pretty fun and takes up all your time eventually you will be over him, and of course time will help so doing something that fills up all your free time will help, just never sit still and remember you did the right thing for you AND your future children. Also, just go have fun with your friends, have a blast it's Halloween. Oh and books are a good way to keep your mind off of things, I love to read.
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